Blogging // The Comparison Trap

Blogging // The Comparison Trap

This is a topic that’s been clanging around inside of my heart recently. Blogging can be such an inspiring world — there’s an endless stream of insane creativity that gets splashed over the internet every day. But sometimes I find myself moving beyond inspiration and ending up sort of overwhelmed.

It always happens when I start comparing. It’s so easy to get inside your head and start thinking crazy thoughts. Well, that blogger has 100,000 Instagram followers. I need that. This blogger is renovating a house. I should do larger projects. The other blogger is best friends with Beyonce. Why am I not best friends with Beyonce?! Okay, so I haven’t officially seen any bloggers being best friends with Bey. But you get what I’m saying, right? Where do we draw the line between being inspired by others to strive for better things and just trying to keep up with that we’re seeing online?

It’s a tough distinction to make. Especially in a world that’s so filtered and styled and edited. When everything looks beautiful and fun and flashy, it’s hard to keep your head on straight and remember that there’s a real person behind each photo, each blog post. And the real person probably has struggles just like we all have struggles. It’s also tough sometimes to not discount the things that are going well, when you see other people accomplishing things you’d like to accomplish. Maybe that blogger just hit 100K on Instagram, but you’ve doubled your followers in the last few months. That’s no small feat. So why is it so easy to look right past it and wish that we had moremoremore?

I know that for me, it’s a constant battle to stop comparing and stop trying to keep up. I do my best to keep my head on straight, set goals that seem right for me, and work toward those goals. That’s not to say that I don’t lose it sometimes. But I find that when I stop looking around for comparisons and put my head down and just work is when I start feeling good again about my own progress. After all, wishing and stewing and hoping won’t get you anywhere, but hard work and a good attitude usually will, at least in my experience.

What about you? If you spend lots of your time online, is this something that you struggle with too? I’d love to know your take on it, and how you combat the comparison trap. xoxo

14 thoughts on “Blogging // The Comparison Trap”

  1. Ugh, I totally get this. It’s so hard, especially when blogging isn’t your first priority, yet you still hold it up along side websites that are people’s careers. But I think what you said is totally true, it’s important to appreciate the little strides that you make instead of getting caught up on what you don’t have .

  2. I was just writing a post about this! It is so hard to stop comparing my blog to others, especially when I forget that I’ve only been doing it for two years. I compare myself to YOU even though I know I shouldn’t. There’s only one you and only one me. My favorite part of following bloggers is getting to know so many different creative voices.

    Early this year, I sat down and wrote my own mission statement on what my blog would be. I’m still working on it (crazy how long that takes), but it is definitely helping me stop the comparing jazz. Probably because the process keeps me so busy! 🙂

  3. Totally agree! It’s impossible to compete with all of the creative and beautiful content out there. I guess we should all focus on spending our time doing the best we can and not comparing ourselves with others.
    I try to remind myself that the internet just shows a snapshot of reality and you never actually know what’s really going on behind the scenes!

  4. I read a great quote the other day: “someone else’s success does not rob you of anything.” I’ve been thinking about that a lot since then because- not only is it easy to compare and wish and want, the next step is usually some sort of animosity & resent we hold in our hearts towards that person– as if they took something away from us. And while comparison can be a source of drive/inspiration, I often see in my life that the drive it creates is one that’s going after an empty goal and I would probably cut corners to get there. Comparison is the thief if joy.

  5. Good stuff! Comparison is the likely culprit for why I chose to take such a long break from blogging. I just lost steam (or so it seemed). With fresh eyes I’m able to see all that I accomplished and appreciate the audience I do have. Thank you for your words!

    Candace Smith

  6. Woah! I so needed to hear this today, really put things into perspective. It’s reassuring to know that someone who does such an awesome job with their own goals struggles with this kind of thing every now and then.

    I love nothing more than looking to other people’s work for inspiration and celebrating what other people have achieved, but I think we could all give ourselves a few more rounds of applause for the work we’ve done. too

    Thanks so much for sharing this and for the encouragement it has given me.

  7. This is so great to read, I’m just starting out in the world of blogging properly (a little bit late to the party) and all I have been doing is comparing and thinking how am I ever going to achieve that? Is it even worth starting?!
    But I am starting and very excited and this post inspires me that even those that have an established blog get those insecurities too, so thank you!

    Nat

  8. I struggle with this ALL. THE. TIME. Last night I had a mini-meltdown while browsing some blogs. I got so bogged down in reading about everyone else’s awesomeness that I began feeling like a total failure and nearly ended up in tears. So crazy!!!! I usually love reading blogs for creative inspiration, but there’s a fine line where it actually stops being inspiring and becomes defeating instead. That’s where I probably need to unplug for a few days and get my head back on straight. Instead I found your lovely post and it summed up EVERYTHING I feel…. thanks for your honesty!! I’m glad I’m not the only one! xo

  9. I constantly find myself getting trapped in the thin line between admiring another bloggers work and gaining inspiration from it to comparing myself to them and feeling down. I have started taking mini social media hiatuses to really just focus on my goals vs spending too much time looking at what someone has accomplished. I also remind myself that I can’t compare my beginnings to someone elses middle and that it’s going to take time to improve. I appreciate you writing this post, I secretly (no longer a secret) envy your Instagram theme so it’s refreshing to know you go through this struggle as well.

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