This is a topic that’s been clanging around inside of my heart recently. Blogging can be such an inspiring world — there’s an endless stream of insane creativity that gets splashed over the internet every day. But sometimes I find myself moving beyond inspiration and ending up sort of overwhelmed.
It always happens when I start comparing. It’s so easy to get inside your head and start thinking crazy thoughts. Well, that blogger has 100,000 Instagram followers. I need that. This blogger is renovating a house. I should do larger projects. The other blogger is best friends with Beyonce. Why am I not best friends with Beyonce?! Okay, so I haven’t officially seen any bloggers being best friends with Bey. But you get what I’m saying, right? Where do we draw the line between being inspired by others to strive for better things and just trying to keep up with that we’re seeing online?
It’s a tough distinction to make. Especially in a world that’s so filtered and styled and edited. When everything looks beautiful and fun and flashy, it’s hard to keep your head on straight and remember that there’s a real person behind each photo, each blog post. And the real person probably has struggles just like we all have struggles. It’s also tough sometimes to not discount the things that are going well, when you see other people accomplishing things you’d like to accomplish. Maybe that blogger just hit 100K on Instagram, but you’ve doubled your followers in the last few months. That’s no small feat. So why is it so easy to look right past it and wish that we had moremoremore?
I know that for me, it’s a constant battle to stop comparing and stop trying to keep up. I do my best to keep my head on straight, set goals that seem right for me, and work toward those goals. That’s not to say that I don’t lose it sometimes. But I find that when I stop looking around for comparisons and put my head down and just work is when I start feeling good again about my own progress. After all, wishing and stewing and hoping won’t get you anywhere, but hard work and a good attitude usually will, at least in my experience.
What about you? If you spend lots of your time online, is this something that you struggle with too? I’d love to know your take on it, and how you combat the comparison trap. xoxo