Image by Mary Evans.
If you’re married or living with your partner, how long did it take you to fall into a routine of who did which jobs around the house? Mr. Lovely and I have been together for a while now, and looking back at the beginning, I can’t really remember if we ever actually talked about it. Things just sort of fell into place.
I’m really great at cleaning. And even though I don’t love it, I like the result that it produces. And I scrub a mean sink, I’m just saying. I remember asking Mr. Lovely to scrub the bathroom one time and he looked at me like I had just asked him to solve the world’s largest Rubiks Cube. He really didn’t know how to do it. I’ll be scrubbing down the shower and ask him to bring me a sponge and he’ll show up with a toothbrush. No joke.
But! That kid can cook anything! I mean anything. Like, cornish game hen anything. And I have trouble not burning the toast. So a long time ago, things just shook out that he’d cook dinner and I’d do the dishes. And most of the time it works out that way, and I’m happy with it.
He gets the mail, I make the bed. He makes our house a tech heaven, and I make it smell like chocolate chip cookies. He builds the Ikea furniture, and I put it in just the right spot so our apartment is awesome.
Sometimes, to be honest, I feel like I don’t do enough. I feel like I rely on him far too much, and that he takes on the bulk of the work. Because he’s a fixer. But looking back, I remember days and weeks of me, DIYing my fingers to the bone and styling my heart out when we moved into our new place, and I remember that I made us a beautiful home to live in. And I feel a little better.
I guess there’s always room to strive to do more and do better for each other. But truth be told, we’ve fallen into a routine that’s comfortable for us both. So where do you stand? Does your household have a routine? Are you happy with it? I’d love to hear. xoxo