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I may kick myself later for even bringing this up, but I kind of want to talk about having kids. Last week in Mexico, Mr. Lovely and I were playing nanny to our sweet niece sometimes while my sis and bro-in-law were out having fun, and it was enough to get me thinking.
Do you have kids? If you’re married with kids, how long did you wait to start poppin’ out babies? It crosses my mind all the time, because while I love little kids and caring for them, I also really, really love my life right now. Mr. Lovely and I are pretty much footloose and fancy free, and live our lives accordingly. We’re always on the move, traveling and running around and having adventures. And it’s not to say that a kid would stop all of that, but it would definitely change things. Or am I wrong about that?
I live in a cross-section of two worlds: one is full of actors and creatives my age who are nowhere near settling down, and the other is the people from my hometown, who tend to marry and start having children right out of school. And I think for me, neither one of them seems right. I don’t want to be anchorless forever, hammering away at an actor’s life where you live out of a suitcase and know people for three months at a time. But I’m also grateful that I didn’t have kids right away, because I’ve had all of these amazing experiences that were brought about by my choices.
I guess my question is — how do you know when it’s time? Because the other thing that I don’t want is to be in a wheelchair when our kids are graduating college. I’d like to be young enough to be active with them for a long, long time. Okay guys, who’s got words of wisdom on this one? xoxo