Image by Peter Turnley, via Vintage Everyday.
If you’re married, or in a long-term relationship, who are your friends?
Do your friendships function in the same way that they did before you were in a relationship? I’m curious to know! When I was in high school and college, I was really awful at keeping in touch with friends when I was dating. And I regret it, big time. I had some of the best girlfriends in the whole world and I messed it up because I was more concerned with my boyfriend. I’ve sort of forgiven myself for that, but it doesn’t mean that I don’t wish it was different.
But with Mr. Lovely, it’s been a different story, in a good way. I met him when I was relatively new to NYC, and so lots of our friends are people that we met together, at the same time. And I love that. There’s also the added bonus of him introducing me to some of his awesome friends (and vice versa), and really hitting it off with them. So our friends multiplied, and that is awesome.
There’s also the whole thing of having “couple friends” and “single friends.” I mean, does that make you feel old, or what? When we hang out with our couple friends, I always love it because they get it, but it all of a sudden makes me feel like I’m on a sitcom from the ’90s. Weird.
And no matter what, there’s just nothing that takes the place of having a good old fashioned hangout with a girlfriend. A couple of my besties are married or in relationships, and we always always always make time for just the girls. I don’t know what it is, but I do know that after spending time with my good girlfriends I’m always a better version of myself.
So who are your friends? I’d love to know how your relationship has affected your friendships, and vice versa. Oh, and a big shout-out to all of my beautiful friends (all over the country) for making my life so full. xoxo