Mr. Lovely and I tend to kind of go big or go home. Throughout the course of our dating and marriage, we’ve chosen some crazy paths — working in China together for a few months, going on U.S. tours together, moving from NYC to LA, and marriage and now babies and all of that. And now with the baby on the way and moving into a new home, we have another set of big changes coming our way.
I realized the other day that we kind of have this series of emotions that we go through when we make a big decision or change. Usually, it starts before the decision is even made, and we both find ourselves kind of squirmy and uncomfortable. And it takes us a while to realize that maybe we’ve outgrown our current situation or we are looking for a new direction. So once we realize it and make the decision, we are antsy to get going.
Then usually with the whole antsy thing comes a phase of being unsettled for a bit. Like with this current move, for a good few weeks we didn’t know when our new home would be ready or when we would actually be moving. This part makes Mr. Lovely crazy. He likes to know exactly what is going on, and when, and where, and how, and what. And I totally get that. But it’s really uncomfortable for him. So once the details get finalized, he’s full speed ahead in planning and organizing mode. No joke, you should see that kid pack up a house. It’s like a well-oiled machine. Or like he’s playing life-sized Tetris with our belongings.
So now that we’ve been through a few of these whole life-altering-change-type-of-things together, I feel like we have a handle on adjusting and being prepared for new directions together. And I’m grateful to be getting a little more comfortable with being unsure of what a new decision will bring, or having some elements be out of our control for a while. I’m finding that it’s all about stepping back and getting some perspective. Because in the end, things usually just work out. Cheesy but true: we’ve always said that everything will be cool as long as we’re together. I’m feeling bonkers lucky to have a guy like that on my team these days.
So what about you?! How do you and your partner deal with big changes? Is it easy or tough for you? And what types of changes have you been through together? Do tell! xoxo