Fighting in Marriage

Married Life // Fighting

I just asked Ryan what the next Married Life post should be about and without even a split-second hesitation, he said, “FIGHTING.” We may or may not have had a…

Fighting in Marriage

I just asked Ryan what the next Married Life post should be about and without even a split-second hesitation, he said, “FIGHTING.” We may or may not have had a doozy yesterday. We were shooting some video content for the blog and we had differing creative ideas and all of a sudden we found ourselves in the midst of a flared-nostril, crossed-arm staring contest and we had both dug in our heels so hard I wasn’t really sure what was going to happen next. I have what you might call a bit of a stubborn streak. And a temper to beat the band. I just don’t usually show it to anybody but Ryan. Lucky fellow.

So I’m sure you’re dying to know what happened next. I made a joke to try to diffuse the situation, which made him madder, which made me re-mad, so I stormed out and went and flung myself on our bed and scrolled through Instagram until my blood stopped boiling. (No joke.) After that I came back in and said I was sorry for the mean things I said, and he said nothing back, which made me mad AGAIN, and then he backpedaled and apologized too and the rest of the day was a kind of bumpy dance where we both were mad but didn’t want to be mad so we just kind of made it through the day. By evening we were making fun of ourselves for being idiots because neither of us could really pinpoint how the fight actually started.

Sometimes I feel like a jerk because if Ryan and I never wanted to fight, we wouldn’t have to. Fundamentally, we have nothing wrong (which I know is a major blessing). We’re on the same page about kids, money, work, family, religion, all that major stuff. When we fight, it’s about completely dumb stuff. Like whether the camera should be at this angle or that angle. Or who has to pick the lunch place this time. If that’s not first world problems I don’t know what is. But despite all that, I maintain that occasional fighting can be healthy for a relationship. Because usually it’s not about the thing that’s actually happening, it’s about what’s underneath, right? If I had to guess, our fight over “creative differences” actually had to do more with me thinking he might not like my ideas or that maybe I’m a total hack and have no good creative ideas to begin with. Or with him thinking that he always just tries to help and I don’t let him help. Or the fact that we both really love to be right, to a fault. Or something similarly deep and uncomfortable to talk about because they’re more serious issues. So really, if you can be honest with yourself and search for what’s way down deep underneath the anger, a fight can be an opportunity to be better as a person and as a couple. (That is, if you can stop the steam from coming out of your ears for long enough to see what’s really going on. Which is not my strong point.)

Do you fight with your partner? What are your hot-button issues? I’m not talking pet-peeve type of stuff, I’m talking about what really gets you into a war zone. How do you get out of a fight once you’re in it? xoxo

P.S. More talk about our marriage!

Cracks in Stucco

This Week + #thelovelyrenovation

So I think I covered it on Instagram, but I also think I forgot to mention here that we’re renovating our house! We broke ground the day after Christmas on…

Cracks in Stucco

So I think I covered it on Instagram, but I also think I forgot to mention here that we’re renovating our house! We broke ground the day after Christmas on Phase One of three phases that we have planned. First up, we’re extending a new garage into our massive (and totally unused) back driveway, and we’re making the old garage into a fully functioning, decked out home studio!

We’ve been talking for quite a while about the pros and cons of getting a studio space outside of our house, but the bottom line is that we both love the flexibility that working from home gives us. That being said, the extra bedroom that we converted into an office is bursting at the seams and we have outgrown it way more quickly than we thought we would. Also, even when we have help at home watching Henry while we’re working, if he knows we’re in the house working he’s distracted and constantly coming to want to see what we’re up to. With the new studio, it’ll be connected to the house but in a back area that we can close off completely, so when we’re working it’ll actually feel like we’re “at work.” (Not to mention some sweet stuff we’re decking it out with like lots of windows for great lighting and a giant photo area so we can photograph our larger projects way more easily.)

The first question most people ask us when we tell them we’re renovating is Are you going to DIY it?! And the answer is a resounding NO WAY JOSE. I’m great with a glue gun and all that but the last thing I want to be responsible for is building the walls that will keep our family safe. And honestly, Ryan probably could do it if he put his mind to it, but the reality is we both have full-time jobs and we want to focus on that while we hire professionals to do what they do best. But! Every once in a while our contractor needs help and that’s when Ryan gets to bang things with a hammer for a while. I think he secretly loves it.

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One fun thing we found out while Ryan was removing that stucco: our house used to be pink! Like, super pink. I think that’s good vibes.

Anyway! I’ll save what we’re planning for Phase Two and Three for later, but if you want to follow along check out #thelovelyrenovation on Instagram! The photos ain’t gonna be pretty but hey man, that’s life. We’re embarking on a many-month project where we’re going to be covered in dust and rubble and floor samples and I can’t wait to share it with you guys. So we’ll be cleaning up messes and picking out some new finishings this weekend, and probably all of the weekends in the foreseeable future. What are you up to this weekend? Have a good one! xoox

Hiring

Lovely Indeed is Hiring!

LOVELY INDEED IS HIRING! It happened, you guys. I’ve hit a very beautiful wall and Lovely Indeed needs a few more peeps on the team. We have some really, really cool…

Hiring

LOVELY INDEED IS HIRING! It happened, you guys. I’ve hit a very beautiful wall and Lovely Indeed needs a few more peeps on the team. We have some really, really cool things in the works for this year and I’m looking for a gang of lovelies who want to help make it all happen. We’re looking for both LOCAL AND REMOTE applicants, with all kinds of different skills. So if it sounds like fun to spend your days painting things gold, taste testing waffles, and generally making the world a more lovely place, read on!

Creative Production + Development Assistant

Must love candy and crafting and dancing to Beyoncé. Our new Creative Production + Editorial Assistant will be in the studio with us, crafting, styling shoots, prepping materials, testing recipes, researching trends, concepting projects, supply shopping, and more. Basically, if you’re looking to spend your days elbow-deep in gold spray paint and hot glue, this job’s for you.

DUTIES INCLUDE:

  • hands-on crafting, prepping materials, testing of DIYs and recipes
  • assistance with setup, and styling of photo/video shoots
  • creative brainstorming and conceptualizing fresh, fun content
  • errands and studio maintenance

QUALIFICATIONS:

  • adept at crafting and using crafting tools (BONUS if you have a special skill in any creative/artistic medium — painting, drawing, baking, cooking, makeup, hair, underwater basket weaving — just about anything!)
  • highly creative
  • resourceful, decisive, strong multitasker, organized, punctual, attentive to detail, exemplary work ethic
  • familiarity with the Lovely Indeed aesthetic and voice
  • Pluses (but not required): working knowledge of Photoshop, Illustrator, Lightroom, Mac computers, Canon cameras. Previous on-set photoshoot experience.

DETAILS:

  • paid position, hourly based upon experience
  • approximately 10 hours weekly, with a minimum 6 month commitment and opportunity for growth
  • must be local to the California Central Valley or willing to commute

TO APPLY:

Send an email to [email protected] with the subject “Creative Production + Development Assistant.” Tell us a bit about yourself and why you’d like to work with Lovely Indeed! Please include:

  • Links to your social media accounts
  • Links to any blog/portfolio/shop that you may have
  • Information about your personal experiences with making. Tell us about your specialties or favorite materials to work with.
  • Two fresh ideas for DIY projects that you think would fit well with the Lovely Indeed aesthetic. Please ensure that you haven’t seen the projects elsewhere.
  • Your resume

Operations + Editorial Assistant

If you love lists as much as I do, you might be the perfect fit here. This one’s all about the technical side of things. Our Operations + Editorial assistant should be a social media whiz and love pop culture just as much as an Excel spreadsheet. If you’re a tech nerd with a trendy streak, we’re looking for you.

DUTIES INCLUDE:

  • assisting with Lovely Indeed’s social media presence on various outlets
  • managing the Lovely Indeed newsletter
  • formatting or drafting blog posts
  • curating roundups, updating galleries and the Lovely Indeed shop

QUALIFICATIONS:

  • working knowledge of social media platforms (mainly Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Snapchat, and Instagram)
  • working knowledge of WordPress
  • must have a computer (Mac preferred), be proficient, and have access to computer/internet throughout the day
  • trend and pop-culture savvy
  • resourceful, decisive, strong multitasker, organized, punctual, attentive to detail, exemplary work ethic
  • familiarity with the Lovely Indeed aesthetic and voice
  • Pluses (but not required): SEO knowledge

DETAILS:

  • paid position, hourly based upon experience
  • approximately 10 hours weekly, with a minimum 6 month commitment
  • accepting both local and remote applicants

TO APPLY:

Send an email to [email protected] with the subject “Operations + Editorial Assistant.” Tell us a bit about yourself and why you’d like to work with Lovely Indeed! Please include:

  • Links to your social media accounts
  • Links to any blog/portfolio/shop that you may have
  • Links to three blog posts not found on Lovely Indeed that you think fit well with our aesthetic. Create a fun caption for each link in 140 characters or less (emojis are okay!).
  • Links to three items that you’d include in the Lovely Indeed shop.
  • Your resume

Graphic Designer

We’re on the hunt for a graphic designer who can help on a freelance basis for various projects, printables, and post layouts! If you’re a graphic designer with an aesthetic that you think would complement the Lovely Indeed style, we’d love to see your portfolio. Send an email to [email protected] with the subject “Graphic Designer” and tell us about yourself! Please also include links to your portfolio, shop, social accounts, or any work that you’d like to show off.

What Else Ya Got?

Just because that’s all we’re listing doesn’t mean that’s all we need! Do you have a skill or specialty that you’d like to contribute to the team? Maybe you’re an amazing photographer and you’d like to shoot some projects with us. Or perhaps you own a bakery and want to start a special blog column about baking. Or maybe you just really like dancing to Beyonce and want to come hang out once a week?! Send an email to hello@lovelyindeed with the subject “I Wanna Be on the Team,” tell us how you’d like to contribute, and include links to your blog/portfolio/social accounts/shop.

All applications are due Friday, January 29th at 11:59 pm PST. We will begin reviewing applications Monday, February 1st and will update here as positions are filled. Thank you!

Copyright Law for Bloggers (And What to do if You're Being Copied)

Making Sense of Copyright Law for Bloggers (And What to Do if You’re Copied)

Oooooooh baby put on your big girl pants because we’ve got a doozy for you today! We have a new resident smarty around these parts and she is dropping knowledge…

Copyright Law for Bloggers (And What to do if You're Being Copied)

Oooooooh baby put on your big girl pants because we’ve got a doozy for you today! We have a new resident smarty around these parts and she is dropping knowledge bombs on you today like it’s nobody’s business. I had the pleasure to chat a bit recently with Maria Spear of Spear Intellectual Property Law, and we got to talking about how difficult it can be as an online creative to protect your ideas. She had the brilliant idea of breaking down the mysterious concept of copyright law as it applies to bloggers and other creatives and share it here in our Blogging series! You’re definitely going to want to grab a cup of coffee and get comfy (and bookmark this one for sure!).

Read on for Maria’s input on intellectual property, and find out how to take on the copycats.

How to Make a Kir Royale

How to Make a Kir Royale

Hey party animals! Today is the day we dive head first into lots more beautiful and fun video content for you lovelies! Sometimes while I’m looking around online for tutorials…

How to Make a Kir Royale

How to Make a Kir Royale

How to Make a Kir Royale

Hey party animals! Today is the day we dive head first into lots more beautiful and fun video content for you lovelies! Sometimes while I’m looking around online for tutorials I don’t want to read or scroll through photos — I just want to watch a quick video to get the gist of how to do something. And that’s what we’re aiming to do for you with all of our videos this year! Quick, easy, awesome. We’ll be filling up our YouTube channel with lots of killer DIYs and recipes so be sure to subscribe. And in the meantime, let’s make a kir royale!

Ever heard of one? It’s soooo French, non? Mais oui. I had my first one on a trip to Paris in college and I felt tres chic. So let’s make the kir royale a thing this Valentine’s Day, huh? It’s the perfect drink to make when you want to feel a little, ya know, French, but don’t want to be fussy about it.

Ingredients

  • champagne
  • creme de cassis
  • optional: edible flower petals

Check out our quick  video and you’ll be sipping kirs with your Valentine in a jiffy! Have fun! xoxo

How to Make a Kir Royale

How to Make a Kir Royale

How to Make Conversation Heart Sugar Cookies for Valentine's Day

DIY Conversation Heart Sugar Cookies

We had so much fun at Christmas with our Elf Quote sugar cookies that we had to do it again! I figured Valentine’s Day would be the perfect opportunity to…

How to Make Conversation Heart Sugar Cookies for Valentine's Day

How to Make Conversation Heart Sugar Cookies for Valentine's Day

How to Make Conversation Heart Sugar Cookies for Valentine's Day

We had so much fun at Christmas with our Elf Quote sugar cookies that we had to do it again! I figured Valentine’s Day would be the perfect opportunity to get wordy on some heart-shaped cookies, so these Conversation Heart Sugar Cookies were born! I went a little hog wild making up phrases or putting our favorite lyrics on them…

How to Make Conversation Heart Sugar Cookies for Valentine's Day

And just in case Valentine’s Day isn’t your thing, we made a few cranky ones. Because “Bye Felicia” should definitely be on a conversation heart somewhere in the world.

How to Make Conversation Heart Sugar Cookies for Valentine's Day

If you want to make these bad boys, follow our tutorial for our Elf Quote cookies! Be sure to read it thoroughly – there are lots of tips and tricks for getting the cookies just right. It’s the exact same process with the exact same materials. If you’d like to replicate our colors, use the food coloring on that ingredients list and separate the dough into quarters. We colored each quarter differently with these drop amounts:

  • pale pink = 1 drop pink
  • bright pink = 6 drops pink
  • lavender = 4 drops purple
  • blue = 1 drop green, 4 drops blue

Then go to town with your cookie imprinting set and make them say whatever you want! This would actually be a super fun thing to do at a Valentine’s (or Galentine’s!) party. You could do it with kids, too — set up the cookies and let them stamp words to their hearts’ content.

Hope you try some of these bad boys! If you do, share ’em on Instagram with #thelovelysquad so we can see whether you love or hate Valentine’s Day. Ha! xoxo

How to Make Conversation Heart Sugar Cookies for Valentine's Day

How to Make Conversation Heart Sugar Cookies for Valentine's Day

How to Make Conversation Heart Sugar Cookies for Valentine's Day

Photos by Scot Woodman

Belgian Waffle Recipe

Best Waffle Recipes for Your Weekend

I declared 2016 the Year of the Waffle on Instagram a while back and you guys got pumped! I think my love for waffles may be second only to Leslie…

I declared 2016 the Year of the Waffle on Instagram a while back and you guys got pumped! I think my love for waffles may be second only to Leslie Knope’s, so I’m reallllly excited to share some of the waffle recipes and DIYs we’ve got cooking (pun pun pun) for you. But in the meantime if you want to get a jump on the Year of the Waffle you should try some of our Waffle Greatest Hits! Pretty sure one of these should end up on your table this weekend. Bieeee! xoxo

Legit Beligan Waffles

Belgian Waffle Recipe

Edible Flower Waffles

DIY Edible Flower Waffles

Maple Chicken + Waffle Sandwiches

Maple Chicken and Waffle Sandwich Recipe

Cinnamon Coffee Crumbcake Waffles

Crumb Coffeecake Waffles

Vanilla Waffles with Dark Chocolate Drizzle

Vanilla Waffles with Dark Chocolate Drizzle

How to Make an Ombre Abacus

DIY Ombre Abacus

In case you’re looking for a cool DIY project for a little one, I thought we’d share this DIY abacus we made for Henry! I’m so pumped on how it…

How to Make an Ombre Abacus

How to Make an Ombre Abacus

In case you’re looking for a cool DIY project for a little one, I thought we’d share this DIY abacus we made for Henry! I’m so pumped on how it turned out I kind of want to hang it on my wall as art and not let my one-year-old gnaw on it, but c’est la vie, right? It involves a couple of little power tools but don’t be scared! It’s crazy simple and the finished product is so worth it. Let’s do it!

Materials

  • 3/4″ square hobby wood board
  • 1/4″ x 3/4″ hobby wood board (find both of these at a hardware store)
  • 10 brass tubes
  • drill with 1/8″ bit
  • saw (optional)
  • 1/2″ screws
  • 100 5/8″ wood beads
  • craft paint (non-toxic if you’re giving this project to a baby!)
  • paintbrushes
  • wood skewer
  • sandpaper

Make Time: 2 Hours (Plus Drying Time)

How to Make an Ombre Abacus

Step 1: Cut the 3/4″ board into two 11″ pieces. If you don’t have a saw, they’ll do it for you at the hardware store if you ask nicely.

Step 2:  Cut the 1/4″ board into 12 1/2″ pieces.

Step 3: Sand all the edges of the boards so that the ends are rounded and smooth for little fingers.

Step 4: On both 11″ pieces, make a mark with a pencil at every inch, making 10 marks total. Drill into the marks with a 1/8″ drill bit, drilling about halfway through the wood.

Step 5: Paint all of your wood beads. It helps to string them onto a skewer while you’re painting and suspend the skewer somewhere so that they can dry. Use 10 different colors and paint 10 beads in each color.

Step 6: Once the beads are dry, insert a brass tube into each hole in one 11″ piece of wood. Put 10 beads on each tube.

Step 7: Insert the other ends of the tubes into the other 11″ piece of wood. Push the two pieces of wood firmly together.

Step 8: Hold one of the flat pieces of wood against the top of the abacus, flush with the ends of the two 11″ pieces. Drill a pilot hole into the top of either side. Screw the wood into place on either end. Repeat with the other flat piece of wood and affix to the bottom of the abacus.

How to Make an Ombre Abacus

How to Make an Ombre Abacus

Now count, count, count to your heart’s content! Henry is obsessed with it and I love watching his fat little fingers shoving those beads around. Sometimes, though, he gets tired of counting and just chews on it for a while. Either way, it’s adorable. Hope you try this one out. And if you do try it (or any other of our projects!) be sure to share it with #thelovelysquad so we can see your awesome work. Yay! xoxo

P.S. Find more DIYs for kiddos right here!

How to Make an Ombre Abacus

How to Make an Ombre Abacus

How to Make an Ombre Abacus

How to Make a Modern Hairpin Leg Bench

DIY Yellow Velvet + Hairpin Leg Bench

Not that we’re furniture-making experts around here, but hey this bench turned out pretty sweet, huh?! I swear it’s so easy you can make it even if you’ve never touched…

How to Make a Modern Hairpin Leg Bench

How to Make a Modern Hairpin Leg Bench

Not that we’re furniture-making experts around here, but hey this bench turned out pretty sweet, huh?! I swear it’s so easy you can make it even if you’ve never touched a drill before. And it’s the perfect little piece for a whole bunch of different spots in your house – we have it at the foot of the bed now but I think I might move it to the entry way. Or maybe bestow upon it the responsibility of being our new coffee table.

So get to it! You can find the full tutorial right here. It’s a low-pressure project with a high-five payoff. At least, we’ve been high fiving ourselves since we made it. But we tend to really love high fives around here so maybe it’s just an excuse. Whatever. Go make one for yourself! Xoxo

How to Make a Modern Hairpin Leg Bench

How to Make a Modern Hairpin Leg Bench

How to Make a Modern Hairpin Leg Bench

How to Make a Modern Hairpin Leg Bench

How to Make Resin Conversation Heart Paperweights

DIY Resin Conversation Heart Paperweights

I am on a resin kick! I always feel so fancy when I find a new material that looks like it’s really hard to work with but in all actuality is…

How to Make Resin Conversation Heart Paperweights

How to Make Resin Conversation Heart Paperweights

I am on a resin kick! I always feel so fancy when I find a new material that looks like it’s really hard to work with but in all actuality is a total snap. That’s resin, folks. We have a few projects like this one coming up and I can’t wait to share! But for now, how about an easy DIY that you can personalize and give to all of your besties this Valentine’s Day? I think some conversation heart paperweights will probably do the trick.

And the most beautiful thing is that the paperweights are my project of the month over on Darby Smart! So if you decide to make some, you can order a kit and everything you need will come wrapped up in one happy little box. I appreciate stuff like that more and more these days, since time is precious and sometimes I just don’t feel like hunting down materials. So whenever I put together a kit I always try to use supplies that you’ll love and most likely use again!

I have to tell you, I agonized over what words to put in these! I debated for a while about using some of the old tried-and-true conversation heart sayings but in the end I made up a few of my own. What’s better than a conversation heart that demands brunch?! Nothing, I tell ya. So head over to Darby Smart for the full tutorial and snap up the materials if you need those too. Have fun! xoxo

GET YOUR CONVERSATION HEART PAPERWEIGHT KIT HERE

P.S. More conversation heart projects!

How to Make Resin Conversation Heart Paperweights

How to Make Resin Conversation Heart Paperweights

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Sacramento City Guide

We live just a short drive from California’s capitol, and I’ve been wanting to put together a Sacramento city guide for a while now! Sometimes Sac gets overlooked when you…

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We live just a short drive from California’s capitol, and I’ve been wanting to put together a Sacramento city guide for a while now! Sometimes Sac gets overlooked when you think of a travel destination in California, but I’m here to tell ya the city is getting cooler by the minute. So many great independent shops and restaurants are popping up all over, and there’s a ton to do. Read on for our favorite spots to eat, drink, shop, and more — and as always, if you’ve got a little one traveling with you look for baby tips in italics.

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Read on for the full Sacramento City Guide!