Married Life // Working Together

togetherHave you ever been in a working relationship with your spouse or partner? How did it go? It’s not necessarily the easiest thing to navigate, is it? I feel so lucky to work alongside Mr. Lovely every day, but it definitely took us some trial and error to figure out how to do it well. And the truth is, it’s not always perfect.

We don’t always exactly work together, since he has his business and I have mine. But we cross over into each others’ worlds daily, because our businesses are so tightly woven. He’s a web designer and helps with the back end of Lovely Indeed. I help him when he’s stuck on a design. He takes photos for my blog. I help him write for his. It’s very give-and-take, but there is no formula for the way we do things (sort of a trend with us, I’m realizing as I get farther into this blog column!).

Where we do struggle sometimes is when it comes to being right. We’re both a little on the stubborn side, and we both loooove to be right. So if we’re in the middle of a photo shoot for the blog and we both have a great idea, we stumble a little bit over choosing whose idea gets used. It’s not World War III or anything, but it’s something that we need to learn to navigate a little better. Because I feel like I’m in charge of the blog and I should have the final say, and he feels like he’s directing a photo shoot and he should have it. So there we are, in our dining room, probably standing in piles of crepe paper or something, dealing with not only our jobs but our relationship. And I can understand how not everyone would want to do that!

The other thing that can be tricky is the amount of time you spend with a spouse who is also your work partner. Now, I’ve addressed this before, but I really love spending all of my time with my husband. And because we work from home together, we really do spend most of our time around each other. But truth be told, there are days when one of us just wants some space, or to be with friends, or whatever. So it’s crucial to recognize it (usually we get a little antsy or snippy and realize we need to get out for a while). I feel like it’s also crucial not to get your feelings hurt because someone needs some time apart. Geez, I don’t even know how Mr. Lovely deals with me all day! That dude deserves a break every once in a while.

So what about you? Have you ever worked with a partner? How did it go for you? xoxo