After Mr. Lovely and I got married, one of the questions we got asked the most was, “So, does it feel any different being married?” And my answer was (and still is) always yes. Completely different! But the thing is, sometimes I can’t really pinpoint the reason why.
We had been dating for two years and engaged for a third, and had been living together for most of that time. We knew how to grocery shop together, we had a routine with dishes and laundry — we had it all down pat. But still, after we got married and all of the hooplah died down, it felt different. Kind of like all of a sudden, the decisions we made were not just for one of us but for the both of us. We started looking at the future with more detail. And even things like groceries and laundry seemed a little less ordinary.
To this day, I still can’t quite put my finger on it. Maybe it’s because we made this official “forever” commitment to each other, whereas before we were committed but, really, one of us could have walked away at any time. But even that kind of only half makes sense to me. I think some of it may just be that ineffable quality that marriage has — the vast concept of committing yourself to another person for the entirety of your lifetime. That can really change the way that you think.
All I know is, one day in the grocery store, it became super, super important that I bring my husband home the right kind of apples. Because I wanted him to be happy.
By the way, if you know the magic answer, I’m all ears! What’s your experience? xoxo