Married Life // PDA

June 20 2013 |

Married Life // PDA

I’m a hugger. I think I probably hug too much. Like, my first instinct when I meet someone is to hug rather than shake a hand. I’m not sure why — my mom is pretty huggy, my dad is pretty average. I guess I just took it to the next level. All that being said, sometimes I’m not sure how I feel about public displays of affection with the ol’ husbaroo.

It’s funny, because I kind of have levels of comfort with the varying tiers of displays of affection. When Mr. Lovely and I are in public (in a relaxed environment), I almost always prefer to be holding hands or have an arm slung around his waist. My shoulder just fits right under his armpit and it’s like a little puzzle fitting together. (Sidenote: He actually complains about this one because he claims I dig my fingers into his ribs. I think his ribs are a little too sensitive.) But! For some reason, I can’t bring myself to give him much of a kiss in public! Wha? I don’t get it. I love smoochin’. It just feels a little too private out in the open. So he has a hard time getting more than a peck out of me when we are out and about.

That being said, I don’t mind seeing a sensible PDA from another couple out in the world! I do, however, draw the line on full-out makeout sessions. I mean, come on. Ain’t nobody got time for that.

I guess it’s also worth noting that when we’re in a work environment (like doing a show together or in a meeting), I stay as far away from that kid as possible. Ha! In the last show we did, it took a while for people to realize we were even married because we kept it so profesh. And to me, that’s a good thing. I mean, who holds hands at work, anyway?

Okay, now you! I’d love to hear your take on PDA, married or not. Lay it on me! xoxo

11 thoughts on “Married Life // PDA”

  1. We are a pretty into PDA. Not a makeout session thing but if we are just standing in a line usually our arms are wrapped around the other or were holding hands or something. Out in public we are always touching the others **appropriate** body parts lol!

  2. Obviously we fall into the okay-with-it school of PDA, up to an acceptable line. At his teaching and school functions, and at my professional gigs, we’re a strict held-hands or linked-arms policy, but when it’s casual, especially when it’s our only “together” activity of the day, we’re pretty cozy. I guess for you two this is a professional job where for us this is just another summer hanging with our pals, so our perspectives are different. But thanks for being non-judgey 🙂

  3. My husband and I hug, hold hands and smooch all the time. (Don’t worry, loving pecks, not full-out MO sessions!) But I do it because life is short — I don’t really want to worry about who sees me kiss my husband goodbye in the morning, because you never know what could happen. I never want to leave him without a quick peck, a good squeeze and an “I love you.”

  4. The first paragraph there could have been written by yours truly. 🙂 But otherwise I’m inclined to agree and find the whole part about work really interesting because that’s how I would be…but what if your SO wasn’t that same way? Sounds like you guys have a really balanced dynamic for each other in terms of PDAs.

    1. My SO is the other way from me! I’m totally comfortable with a reasonable level of PDA–hand-holding, hugging, some light kissing. But my beau is very private and feels VERY embarrassed by even minimal touching in public. When we’re out together it makes me a bit sad–I of course know that it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t want to be seen with me, but there’s something very romantic about showing the world how you feel about your partner.

  5. My fiancé and I keep the PDA to a minimum. We’re comfortable with holding hands or swinging and arm around each other, but I feel pretty uncomfortable with anything more than that. I don’t even like it when he starts to scratch my back in public! And we never NEVER kiss in public, even around family and friends. We love each other and are very cudley/affectionate in private, but both of us just feel like those kind of affections and feelings are personal and should be kept between us.

    As for professtional settings, totally hands off! We met each other at college, became bff’s, and coincidentally also had the same major. So we pretty much had all of our classes together. It was important to us to have set boundaries during class so we could actually get stuff done and focus. Plus it was nice to have an environment where we could just be friends and forget about all of the complexities of dating.

  6. I can just say, I identify with you opinion so much, Iam a hugger too! Everywhere and anywhere, with friends, family or free hugs of strangers. But if it comes to being professional I could not bear the thought of showing off my relationship in front of everyone.

  7. I’m definitely a hugger as well. It might be a little weird, but it’s really comforting. I’m not a huge fan of excessive PDA, it makes me cringe just a little haha

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