Did You Ever Think You’d Be Where You Are?

Baby belly

I was sitting on the couch the other night next to Mr. Lovely, getting through one of my last bouts of evening queasiness (yeah, morning sicknessĀ ain’t just for mornings, y’all), and I asked him whether he’d ever envisioned what life would be like with a pregnant wife. Like, before we knew each other. He said no. I did too. And I realized that I never, ever, imagined or wondered what it would like to be pregnant. Come to think of it, I never imagined or wondered what it would be like to be married. Or even daydreamed about my wedding day. It just wasn’t my deal.

I feel like there are folks who wait and hope and wonder and wish for those big life-type things to happen, and they just know that someday they’ll be there. Me, I was too busy with jobs and cross-country moves and tour life to even stop and think about it. And now that I’m married and pregnant it’s crazy to look back and think that I never pictured this. Not that I didn’tĀ want it — I just never wondered what it would be like. I suppose I kind of felt like it was out there somewhere and it would find me when it found me. And it did.

So here we are, with me in sweatpants sick on the couch and Mr. Lovely getting pushed out of the bed by too many pillows, and now we know what it’s like to be married and pregnant. It’s glamorous, guys. Really glamorous. But for reals! Did you ever imagine what it would be like to be a grownup, or married, or pregnant, or whatever? Did you ever wonder where you’d end up? And if you did, were you right about what it would be like? This it totally fascinating! Lay it on me in the comments. xoxo


17 comments

  1. anoushka on said:

    me either! i really didn’t know what the future held for me but i am so happy i am getting married to a decent guy with our daughter and now a dog! we all have different journeys and they happen at different times! good luck with your baby <3

    • chelsea on said:

      Thanks Anoushka! And congrats on all of the beautiful things in your life! xo

  2. I’ve always imagined it and still do, but when time comes it’s always so much different and better than i imagine it. Now you got me all thinking about how it’s being pregnant :D

    • chelsea on said:

      I love that life is always better than you imagine! Isn’t that the coolest?

  3. Jessica Thiessen on said:

    I think I always vaguely imagined what those big life events would be like – but I certainly never dwelled too much. When I was wedding planning years ago, my mom would get so mad because I just didn’t care about the little details – HA! Life’s a little too unpredictable to dwell much on what may be. Goodness, right now we have a 15 month old boy and found out we are pregnant with TWINS. Never could I have imagined myself having 3 kids under the age of two. (Also, nothing has made me feel like I’m playing “grownup” more than buying a mini van. It’s okay, we’ll rock it).

    • chelsea on said:

      Oh my goodness, twins?! I’m so excited for you! I (not so) secretly was crossing my fingers for twins and my sister thought I was crazy. I think it’ll be a totally amazing adventure.

  4. Laura on said:

    I always thought adult hood was easier than it is. I thought being engaged would be easier and I thought getting a job out of college would be easier. But that being said, I also never even imagined how wonderful it is to be in love with my best friend and to have him by my side to figure all this out with.
    I definitely never was the girl that thought about babies or weddings. I actually still don’t… and I am engaged.

    • chelsea on said:

      What a gorgeous thing to say, about having your best friend by your side for the journey. It’s way better than you could ever imagine, isn’t it?

  5. Honestly, the thought of all that is kind of scary! As a single, 24 year old girl, my focus right now is on my career. I want to be the best damn photographer I can be. I dream of going on tour with amazing musicians, shooting beautiful styled setups, and making portraits come to life. I don’t think past that. This is my time to be selfish and make my dreams come true before I have to consider the dreams of a significant other. One day, the time will come to be a wife and a mother, but for right now, I just want to be wild and free. I love knowing that if a band I want to work with called me up and said that they need me to hop on tour with them as their photographer in a week, I could do it. It’s wonderful! I love reading your thoughts and what everyone else has to say on this topic! Great post, Chelsea! :) Hope that morning/evening sickness stops soon! Happy Monday!

    • chelsea on said:

      Thanks so much for sharing, Neha! And I wouldn’t think of your mindset as selfish at all — I think being young and adventurous and creative is a beautiful thing. Go get ‘em!

  6. KATERINA on said:

    I never imagined my life would turn out the way it it did..For some reason I never thought I would get married or have children.I’ve accomplished both of them and thank God it’s better than people told me it would be. my only regret?Not giving the thought needed about my work life..I need to work on that, it’s never too late..

    • chelsea on said:

      Definitely never too late! I love that life is what you decide to make it. ;)

  7. Christie on said:

    The part that you wrote about him getting pushed out of bed by too many pillows made me laugh. I am pregnant and I have to sleep with my pillows just right for me to be comfortable and I swear her gets the tiniest part of the bed but still doesn’t complain about it…..alot!

    • chelsea on said:

      Thank goodness for sweet husbands. ;)

  8. amanda on said:

    finally, someone who thinks – well, thought – the same way i do! i feel like i’m surrounded by people who are imagining every instance of their future.. and then there’s me. just working and taking it day-to-day! thanks for this. refreshing to hear i’m not the only one who doesn’t daydream of these things.

  9. When I was young I always thought, “Well, I’ll be 40 then and nothing will matter to me at 40.” As in, I’d be too old to care about what was important and what wasn’t. BOY, was I wrong! :D

  10. Kory on said:

    You know, it’s funny that you shared this because I was thinking about this yesterday afternoon. It’s crazy how things happen, and you don’t really envision them or see them coming. Life is such a whirlwind of new things.

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