Wedding First Dance

Anniversary

Four years, three cities, two coasts, one baby, and about twenty gazillion perfect memories. I feel infinitely older than I did four years ago today when I married this guy,…

Wedding First Dance

Four years, three cities, two coasts, one baby, and about twenty gazillion perfect memories. I feel infinitely older than I did four years ago today when I married this guy, but also infinitely better for being his wife. I have no idea how we got so lucky, honey.

We’re off on our annual anniversary trip — in Tulum, finally! And this year we get to spend it with little dude. Follow along over on Instagram for lots of #lovelyindeedtravels photos, and come back next week because I’ve got a whole mess of good stuff lined up while we’re away! xoxo

Married Life // Making Friends

Married Life // Making Friends

It’s so easy to make friends when you’re little. Right? I mean, you just go up to the closest foursquare court on the playground and ask to play next. Then…

Married Life // Making Friends

It’s so easy to make friends when you’re little. Right? I mean, you just go up to the closest foursquare court on the playground and ask to play next. Then you grow up a little more and in college you’re tossed in with everybody else in your major and you have a built-in social group. But what about after school is over and you get married and you’re in the real world? How do you find friends?

Mr. Lovely and I are pals. I mean, best buddies. And it’s so amazing to be married to your best friend and get to be friends and be in love. Really, it’s insanely wonderful. We come as a pair and love to spend time together. But also, I think it’s healthy for the two people in a relationship to have outside activities and especially outside friends. I think we all need a network of support that should extend beyond our significant others, yeah?

Our situation is a little weird, in that we’ve tackled two major moves during our marriage, from NYC to LA and now to Central California. And each time, we left behind a group of friends that we were incredibly sad to part with. So now we’ve got plenty of friends, but they just happen to be scattered all over the United States. And in our new town, we’re finding that as a married couple with a little dude it’s not as easy to find pals as it was when we were young and footloose and fancy free. Also, I think that the older you get, the fewer people there are in your age demographic who are open to new friendships. Lots of people our age who live in town are kind of set for friends, they have a routine, and there’s just not a lot of room for adding more to the mix. Which I totally understand. So where the heck do you make friends?!

We’ve literally started hitting on people to be our friends while we’re out in the world. No joke, we spotted a couple in our favorite taqueria with a baby who looked similar in age to Henry, and we walked right up and asked if they ever wanted to hang out. Now they’re some of our good buddies. But putting yourself out there like that can be intimidating and tiring, and it’s easy to just fall back into the insular routine of hanging out with your spouse or partner because it’s the path of least resistance.

Nevertheless, we’re always striving to meet new people; not just to have things to do, but because people are awesome. Every time I meet someone new I am grateful to have another person and point of view to broaden my world a little bit. So I’d love to know your take on this one! Have you experienced the same thing? Where do you meet new friends as a grownup? xoxo

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Conversations with My Future Self

Would you say that you think about the future a lot? I’ve always been a planner. When Ryan and I got married we put our heads together at drew ourselves…

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Would you say that you think about the future a lot? I’ve always been a planner. When Ryan and I got married we put our heads together at drew ourselves out a five year plan, and we revisit it every year to remind ourselves what’s there, check in with what we’re accomplishing, or see what maybe isn’t so important to us any more. It’s morphed over the years, but it’s also helped us stay focused on a few key things that we’d like to build for our lives. Recently the gang at Clinique asked a few bloggers to #FaceForward and set some goals or give advice to their future selves, and I got so pumped at the prospect of examining what lies ahead. I know it sounds kind of cheesy, but in my heart of hearts I truly believe that living with goals and intentions makes life so much richer. So what the heck would I say to my future self?

Dear Me,

When you woke up this morning, did ya smile? I hope so, because these are the good old days. In fact, every day of your life so far has been a good old day. If there’s one thing you must know by now, it’s that there’s no point in waiting around for something better to happen, because you miss all of the beautiful things that are happening right this moment.

#FaceForward

How old is Henry? Five? Ten? Does he still have all limbs intact and does he eat his green beans? Yes? Then you’ve done a good job. Being a mom is hard — maybe the hardest thing you’ve ever done — but you’re doing it, every day. And just that is worth a high five. If I had to wager a guess, you’re still probably pretty hard on yourself about what kind of mom you are. But here are the answers: yes, you spend enough time with your son; yes, he’s developed into a great little kid; yes, you’re doing everything you can to make sure that he has a life full of possibility. Now relax and enjoy him. That’s your job today. Does Henry have siblings? Yes? No? Guess what — either way is fine. There’s nothing wrong with having an only child and there’s nothing wrong with having four babies, or anything in between.

Do you still know how lucky you are to have Ryan? He probably still leaves crumbs all over the counter, right? Let that one go. In fact, let all the little stuff go if you haven’t already. Today, look at the big stuff. Watch him toss Henry into the air and watch him mow the lawn and watch him hard at work to help provide for your family. Remember years and years ago when you were first married and everything seemed like it was at your fingertips? It was, and it still is. The world doesn’t change after years of marriage, but your perception of it does. Try to think back to what it was like to be young and crazy and capture that feeling every once in a while.

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And what about you? Are you still working? Maybe, maybe not — either way is great. But what’s important is that you’re doing something that you love, that inspires you, that you feel excited to wake up to every day. Don’t forget in all the mom stuff and wife stuff and life stuff that you need something that is yours. Go to the gym. Hang out with friends. Spend five minutes alone. The world and the people around you will be better for it.

You’re doing good things, girlfriend. Keep on keeping on.

xo
Me

I would truly love to know — if you could give some advice or set a goal for your future self, what would it be? Leave a comment if you like; I think it’s so wonderful to support each other’s goals and share thoughts. You can also share on social with #FaceForward and join the movement with other strong, smart, adventurous women like you! xoxo

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Photos by Scot Woodman

This post is sponsored by Clinique. All opinions are my very own. Thank you for being supportive of the partners who help keep Lovely Indeed rocking!

Mom and Baby Pink Wall

Adventures in Parenthood // Getting Sick

Everybody right this second please knock on a million pieces of wood for me, because I’m about to say something dicey. Up to now, Henry hasn’t really ever been sick….

Mom and Baby Pink Wall

Everybody right this second please knock on a million pieces of wood for me, because I’m about to say something dicey. Up to now, Henry hasn’t really ever been sick. Knockonwood. He had some tummy troubles with dairy but that was more an intolerance than an illness, and those days are long gone anyway. So we haven’t ever really dealt with a baby who had a fever or a cold or any of that.

What we have dealt with is trying to be a parent to said baby when we ourselves were sick. And not just any old sick, but knocking on death’s door, head over the toilet, literally can’t move a muscle sick. And that, my friends, straight up sucks.

You know how when you’re sick, all you want is your mom? At least that’s all I want. I want a cold rag on my forehead and saltines and my mom to tell me everything is going to be okay. But when you are the mom and you get knocked out, you kind of don’t have any choice but to just keep going. Cold rag and saltines be damned. I mean, it’s not like the kid is gonna say, “Oh I’m sorry you’re sick Mommy and Daddy! Don’t worry about me, I’ll just change my own diapers and feed and play with myself today.” We were pretty lucky this time — Ryan’s worst day was Monday and mine was Tuesday, so we sort of were able to tag team. But even so, I almost don’t even have any recollection of what actually happened on those two days. I mean, we all made it out alive (including Henry) so something must have gone right, but it’s like a black spot in my memory. Oh! And don’t even get me started about breastfeeding with the stomach flu. You haven’t lived until you’ve been trapped underneath a feeding baby and suddenly have the need to toss your cookies.

Anyway! Chalk this one up to good ol’ Chelsea keeping it real just in case any of you are thinking of becoming parents and you want some real talk. Add it to the “Things They Never Tell You” list and file it away for a rainy day! Oh, and you’ll be happy to know, we’re all much better now and Ryan and I both lost three pounds. So there, flu. xoxo

Henry Seven Months

Henry // Seven Months

I’m feeling pretty smug now that I’m the mother of a seven-month-old. Yep, everyone is sleeping at night (for months now), the kid knows how to nap, he’s been on…

Henry Seven Months

I’m feeling pretty smug now that I’m the mother of a seven-month-old. Yep, everyone is sleeping at night (for months now), the kid knows how to nap, he’s been on an airplane, he eats solids, and he can recite Shakespeare. Haaaaa just making sure you were listening. There’s no Shakespeare happening yet. But! When I say “Where’s Daddy?” he looks over at Ryan with a big grin. And that’s just as good, right?!

This child of mine loves sweet potatoes and bananas and asparagus and peas and pretty much just eating in general. He’s chubbing up and it’s my favorite thing to grab his squishy baby thighs and just squeeze ’em. He loves dogs, too, and will let them just come right up and lick his toes and his face and he thinks it’s just swell. But most of all, the kid loves cups. I mean, give this baby a cup and he will be your best friend forever until you can’t stand it any more. Mostly to-go cups, like if we had a fountain soda from Chipotle on Monday, he’ll still be playing with the cup on Friday. He wants to be a big kid and drink from cups SO BAD! But mostly he can’t figure it out and just chews on the bottom. No joke, we took a cup with ice in it on the plane ride home from Colorado and he played with it for probably half of the flight.

So what else, you ask? He’s starting to copy sounds. He’s getting lots stronger at sitting up. He so wants to scoot but for the life of him can’t figure it out. He’s just as happy as ever and every day I wish I could stop time because surely being a mom doesn’t get any more fun than this, right? And then the next day comes and something even more fun happens. Why did nobody warn me about this?!

Happy seven months, tiny dude! xoxo

Henry 6 Months

Henry Seven Months

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This Week + How Life Goes

Lovelies, I’m in one of those moods where I’m in love with the world. The beautiful, crazy, messy, difficult world. We came back from our trip to Denver early this…

Pink Wall Pink Backpack

Lovelies, I’m in one of those moods where I’m in love with the world. The beautiful, crazy, messy, difficult world. We came back from our trip to Denver early this week and ever since, Henry has been a little off his schedule and a bit fussy. We came back to piles of work. We came back to a dogsitting gig for a dog with fleas. We came back to a messy house and an empty fridge.

But you know what? For some reason I find it all kind of wonderful. Because that’s just how life goes, right? Some days are perfect and some days you have a messy house and some days you win the lottery and some days you stub your toe one too many times. You can choose to wish the time away and wait for tomorrow or you can choose to just hang on to the moment and laugh about the empty fridge (and just order a pizza, for crying out loud). As usual, I’m not sure I’m expressing myself as eloquently as I should but the bottom line is this: Today, right now, my life feels perfectly imperfect and just exactly right.

Hoping you feel the same today, and that you have a weekend full of whatever it is that you love to do! xoxo

Curing the Midday Slump

Curing the Midday Slump

You guys, it finally  happened. I’ve reached the age where I really, really would love to incorporate an afternoon nap into my schedule. Unfortunately, a busy baby and a busy job…

Curing the Midday Slump

You guys, it finally  happened. I’ve reached the age where I really, really would love to incorporate an afternoon nap into my schedule. Unfortunately, a busy baby and a busy job and a busy life sort of trump my desire for a daily siesta, if you know what I mean. But seriously, for the past few months, I’ve been noticing that 3 pm hits and I find myself in the midst of a foggy, sleepy, uninspired midday slump.

When I first started noticing it I would try to just fight through it, ignoring the total energy dip and just attempting to power on. Dismal. Failure. That approach pretty much just resulted in me still getting nothing done and then being cranky on top of it. After that I tried caffeinating. But a diet soda just wasn’t cutting it.

Finally I realized that I actually needed to set aside a little time to recharge. Step away from the computer, set Henry up somewhere where he can play by himself for a bit, and just grab a quiet moment. I make sure I have a big glass of water to clear my brain and a snack to refuel until dinner. (I’ve also realized lately that I get a bad case of the hangries in the afternoon without a snack. Snacking = crucial, especially since Henry is still nursing.) My go-to snack these days is yogurt, and these Chobani Flip Greek Yogurts have been totally nailing it for me. I’ve been working dairy back into my diet and Henry seems good with it so far, so I’m crazy happy to be able to eat yogurt again! It’s a good little protein boost without a ton of sugar, and these flavors! Ah, they taste like summer. If I could insert a thumbs up emoji and a palm tree emoji right here I totally would. (For reals, though, try the Key Lime Crumble or the Almond Coco Loco.)

Curing the Midday Slump

Curing the Midday Slump

The rest of my recharge routine? Just 5 or 10 minutes of whatevertheheckiwant. Some days I flip through a few pages of a book or magazine, some days I sit and stare out the window. And let’s be real, sometimes I get on Instagram haaaaaay. But it’s amazing that all it takes is just a few minutes and I’m back in the game for the rest of the day. Such a good reminder that we are not machines! We have to take care of ourselves in order to be the best version of ourselves, you guys.

So! How do you recharge? Do you find that you have a slump in the middle of the day? I’d love to know your tricks for getting back into the swing of things. xoxo

Curing the Midday Slump

This post was sponsored by Chobani through their partnership with POPSUGAR Select. While I was compensated to write a post about Chobani Flip Greek Yogurt, all opinions are my own.

Pet Peeves in Marriage

Married Life // Pet Peeves Deux

Let’s be clear. I love my husband. I mean, loooooove. Crazy about the guy. And he’s, like, the best. As we speak, he’s outside mowing our lawn after having worked a…

Pet Peeves in Marriage

Let’s be clear. I love my husband. I mean, loooooove. Crazy about the guy. And he’s, like, the best. As we speak, he’s outside mowing our lawn after having worked a full day and watched Henry for a few hours so I could get some work done too. He’s a champ.

How-to-the-ever, you know that even in the most magnificent of relationships there are these leeeeeetle tiny things that just get under your skin. I’ve talked about it before right here, which was pretty cathartic and even more hilarious to read your responses. Lately Mr. Lovely and I have been a bit on edge, just with figuring out work schedules and baby schedules and life schedules, and when you’re on edge the little things that get under your skin can seem huge. So we decided to laugh about it instead of going crazy over it, and share it with you here. I present, in no particular order, the things my husband does that drive me promptly up the wall.

He holds his breath after he sneezes for, like, 20 seconds. It’s weird.
He pulls his t-shirts off inside out before he puts them in the laundry so I have to turn every single t-shirt right side out when I fold.
He walks just slightly faster than I do so I’m always a half step behind him.
Dirty dishes on the counter. Does it take that much longer to just put it in the dishwasher?!
He eats ice cream so. loudly. But just ice cream. Still haven’t figured out why.

And because it just wouldn’t be right to not let him have his say, here’s what I do that makes him crazy.

I pick at my nail polish. It totally grosses him out.
My hair is still shedding post-baby, and somehow it always ends up wrapped around Henry’s fingers or in his mouth. (To be fair, that one drives me crazy too. How do you stop it?!)
When he asks what I want for dinner the answer is always, “I dunno, what are the options?”
After I get out of the shower, I leave the showerhead pointed in such a way that it sprays his feet when he turns the shower on the next time.

I have to know if we’re normal! Leave a comment and tell me the weird things your spouse or partner does that just make ya nuts. xoxo

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The New Lovely

Photo by Mary Costa Stop the presses. Stop everything. It’s heeeeere! Welcome to the new Lovely Indeed. If you’re reading this here post on Bloglovin’ or Feedly or another reader,…

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Photo by Mary Costa

Stop the presses. Stop everything. It’s heeeeere! Welcome to the new Lovely Indeed. If you’re reading this here post on Bloglovin’ or Feedly or another reader, for crying out loud get yourself over to the blog and witness the new hotness.

We’ve had this redesign in the works for months now, and I’m so pumped to see it launch. For so long I’ve had this vision of the blog that’s more than just a blog — I wanted it to feel like a place to come and hang out, where there’s lots to do and see and participate in, and this feels so much more like that! Let me give ya a tour of the new joint and you can explore.

One of my favorite new ways to use the blog is in grid view. It kinda feels a bit Pinterest-y, and it gives you little bite sizes of each post so you can scroll through and see a whole bunch of posts at once. They’re all clickable and you can click through to read something that looks interesting. If that’s not your jam, you can click “Scroll” up at the top of the blog feed and see everything in good old fashioned scroll view.

We have a page for #thelovelysquad, where we’re featuring all of your reader projects! Be sure to tag your Lovely Indeed projects with #thelovelysquad on social media, and we’ll share here & link back to you!

There’s a new shop page, where you can find and shop Lovely Indeed faves (and a few fun surprises coming soon!). You know I love being able to share my favorite online finds, so now you can see them all in one spot.

Another new piece that I love is the Lovely Manifesto. I’ve been thinking long and hard about what Lovely Indeed is and what I want it to be, so we wrote a mission statement of sorts and it’ll live here on the blog, to serve as inspiration. It’s hand-lettered by the incredible Lindsey from Lindsey Crafter, who has a couple of regular illustrated series coming up here on the blog as well! Be sure to pop over and read our mission.

And finally, my web dudes spent many long and hard hours making the site fully responsive, so it looks great not just on a computer but on a tablet and a phone too. Ohhhhh, it’s so pretty.

Those are just a few of my favorite new features — be sure to spend some time clicking around and see how the new site really works! It’s so fun and so fancy and I just want to hop inside it and camp out. Hope you do too. Big claps for the dudes at Roundhouse Designs for leveling us up so hard! xoxo

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Married Life // Birthdays

Now that we’re old married people, I almost can’t even remember how we used to celebrate each other’s birthdays when we started dating. Oh wait! Yes I do. We were living…

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Now that we’re old married people, I almost can’t even remember how we used to celebrate each other’s birthdays when we started dating. Oh wait! Yes I do. We were living in NYC and every birthday was a shindig out at a bar or restaurant, where whoever’s birthday it wasn’t did all the planning and inviting and paying for drinks. I remember one year my birthday there was this huge snowstorm in the city and I was so stressed and sad because I thought no one would venture out in that weather. Mr. Lovely did lots of calling and texting and put together one of my favorite parties ever. Now that I look back, that sounds exhausting. Ha!

It’s not that I don’t like to hang out with bunches of people any more. And having a big party can definitely be fun. But now that we’re in it for the long haul and we’ll (hopefully) be celebrating a whole mess of birthdays together, my preference in the way that we celebrate has totally changed. What did we do for this last birthday for instance? My two guys took me to lunch at Chipotle (that guac tho) and to Trader Joe’s to get my favorite gummy bears on earth. We had family taco night, and then spent a day in San Francisco a few days later. Nothing fancy, just little adventures with the people that I love most.

We hardly even do gifts any more, which is actually kind of a relief. Mr. Lovely surprised me with a couple of vinyl albums that I had been wanting and we called it a very successful day. (He didn’t wrap them — I came out into the living room in the morning and they were leaning against the tv. Ha.) So. This is my question for you guys. Have we lost the romance and excitement? Or is it kind of expected that after a while you don’t need a whole fanfare for birthdays? I mean, I guess where we’ve settled is a celebration in a smaller way — a way where a taco bar with your family is really all you need in the world.

So leave a comment: How do you celebrate birthdays with your boo?! (Ha. I said boo.) xoxo

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Ask Me Anything

Hey Monday lovers! More fun news with regards to some upcoming changes around these parts — I’m finally putting together an FAQ section! I get lots of questions about blog…

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Hey Monday lovers! More fun news with regards to some upcoming changes around these parts — I’m finally putting together an FAQ section! I get lots of questions about blog stuff, travel stuff, photo stuff, and just normal people stuff, so I figured it was high time to get it all answered. So if you have any burning questions about anything (seriously, anything), leave a comment or shoot me an email at [email protected] and I’ll do my best to include an answer in the new FAQ section. If it’s of a more personal or individual nature, I’ll try to get back to you with a response.

Now go kick this week in the teeth! xoxo