It's Okay to Not Do It All

No, You Can’t Do It All

I’ve been feeling underneath it all lately. Can you tell? I feel like I can’t catch up or keep up, and every day there’s something (usually a big something) that…

It's Okay to Not Do It All

I’ve been feeling underneath it all lately. Can you tell? I feel like I can’t catch up or keep up, and every day there’s something (usually a big something) that just has to be left behind. Part of me thinks it’s a passing phase because Baby #2 is just cleaning me out in terms of energy, motivation, and general well-being. But another part of me thinks that maybe this is just the status quo. That if you’re a mom and a wife and a business owner or have a job, you’re just always going to feel… behind.  This one’s a doozy of a post, guys! Click through to hear some deep thoughts.

Pregnant woman with hand on stomach

Baby Stuff // 13

I can’t believe I’m about to say this but we are officially halfway through this pregnancy, dudes! Time is fuh-lying, despite how much this little nugget is giving me a…

Pregnant woman with hand on stomach

I can’t believe I’m about to say this but we are officially halfway through this pregnancy, dudes! Time is fuh-lying, despite how much this little nugget is giving me a run for my money. And speaking of which, who’s up for a little overshare of a pregnancy update? Remember when I used to do Baby Stuff updates with Henry? We left off with him at #12 so I just decided to pick it up at #13, even though this is baby number two. I’m in a chatty mood today so let’s go.

WEEK 20.

EATING allllll of the carbs. And the fruit. But definitely not meat. Uggggh.

DRINKING La Croix like my life depends upon it. And obviously plain water too. But seriously why didn’t I think of La Croix with my last pregnancy?! It’s saving me from mind-numbing boredom when it comes to my beverage selection. Although I would be lying if I didn’t tell you that I’ve craved a beer every. single. day. of this pregnancy. Corona Light, please.

READING absolutely nothing about babies! Suck it, baby books! This ain’t my first rodeo.

WANTING just for one day to feel perfectly well. This adorable child has been giving me persistent nausea since day one. Like, all day. With Henry it went away at about 14 weeks and here we are at week 20, still woozy. It’s admittedly waaaaaay better (I was on anti-nausea meds for a while and have been able to stop them completely), but there are still times of day when I just need to lay down for a sec.

SLEEPING is starting to get challenging. I forgot this about last time but for some reason when I go to bed my nose plugs. So there’s a lot of mouth breathing going on. Super sexy, right?

WEARING dresses and only dresses and more dresses please. Maternity pants are a JOKE.

FEELING like I have NO EARTHLY IDEA how we’re going to manage two kids and two jobs. Ryan keeps saying, “I know it’ll work.” And every time he says that about something he’s right. But he’s a little more laid back than I am. I like to have a plan and there is no way to know what to even plan for right now!

LOVING the kicks. Ah, the kicks make it all worth it. This little nugget is like Henry; he liked to kick me around in the morning before I got out of bed. I had forgotten until the other day I was waking up and feeling these little flicks in my tummy. It was like the kiddo was saying good morning.

Cotton candy sunrise

Happy Friday + Take a Sec

Hey lovelies! Oof, I’m stressin’ these days! I’ve got some projects that I keep trying to get done and they keep failing, I have some deadlines quickly approaching, Henry is…

Cotton candy sunrise

Hey lovelies! Oof, I’m stressin’ these days! I’ve got some projects that I keep trying to get done and they keep failing, I have some deadlines quickly approaching, Henry is a handful (a cute one but you know what I mean), and our house is in a constant state of disarray thanks to the remodel. But! I was driving to the gym the other morning for my usual 6 am spin class and I pulled into the parking lot and the sweetest sunrise was happening. It was still quiet outside because most sane people aren’t out driving around at 6 am, and I just sat for a second and looked at the colors and the composition and truly, it made me feel better. Calmer. Sort of like not every single thing is a huge deal and maybe I should just remember to take a big breath and a step back sometimes! I think I’m on fast forward a bit these days, just trying to tick things off my list, and that ain’t no way to live, I tell ya.

So. What helps you take a sec? Do you have a thing that reminds you to slow down, or to just take a breath? What’s your thing? Hope you have some time to find it this weekend! xoxo

Hole in Living Room Floor

Married Life // Under Construction

How’s that for a glamorous photo? I decided it’s one of those “keep-it-real” days around here. This is an actual picture of an actual hole in our actual living room….

Hole in Living Room Floor

How’s that for a glamorous photo? I decided it’s one of those “keep-it-real” days around here. This is an actual picture of an actual hole in our actual living room.

Before we started this renovation on our house, my dad made an offhand comment to me one day about how we should be ready because construction has broken up more than a few marriages. I nodded seriously at him and giggled inside because sometimes my dad cracks me up with his sage advice. But truth be told, now that we’re in the midst of this whole shebang I can absolutely see how a marriage is tested by sledgehammers and cement mixers. It’s chaos. And sometimes the physical chaos starts feeling like mental chaos and you both just start to snap.

Right now, there’s a hole in the middle of our living room where our fireplace used to be. A giant, 6-foot-by-5-foot hole. Just hanging out. And in the three adjoining rooms, there’s a layer of dust on everything that meets the eye. So here we are, trying to go about our lives and work and entertain a toddler but not let him fall in the hole or lick the dust or anything else life threatening. And meanwhile, we’re deciding how best to plug the hole temporarily and what kind of cabinet exactly is going to go there eventually, and should it be a cabinet or closet? And what really is the difference? And will two extra feet in this room really matter? OH MAN. It gets intense.

And to top it all off, I’m pregnant now and for some reason we always end up doing these major life-changing things (like moving to a new town or a complete home remodel) while I’m with child. Because we just really like to live on the edge. All of this is to say that yes renovations can absolutely challenge a relationship. We had a little taste of it when we moved into the house a couple of years back, but this is next level.

So how do you deal? We’re figuring that one out as we go along. I think mostly you just fight tooth and nail to remember that you’re on the same team. Because as soon as one person gets a little tone in their voice, the other one gets defensive, and then all of a sudden the new dining room is a war zone. So maybe we have differing opinions about whether we need obscured glass or clear glass in the new bathroom windows, but it doesn’t mean that it’s the end of the world. We’re trying to keep our heads from spinning with all of these teeny tiny decisions, and lean on each other instead of pitting ourselves against each other with differences of opinion. It’s really easy to dig your feet in and try to stand your ground, but really nobody wins at the end of that situation.

Oh, and you’ll be happy to know that some old closet doors are now covering the hole so we can’t fall in. At least we got that one figured out. 😉 xoxo

How to Announce a Second Baby

Announcing a Second Baby

So it turns out, having a second baby comes with all kinds of conundrums. Where do you put it? How do both kids sleep at the same time? Do you really…

How to Announce a Second Baby

So it turns out, having a second baby comes with all kinds of conundrums. Where do you put it? How do both kids sleep at the same time? Do you really need a second baby shower? Do you even announce it in the same way? I kind of mentioned it on Friday, but I feel like so many times a second pregnancy goes a little uncelebrated. And it makes me feel bad for the kid! Yes, babies are born every day, and maybe after the excitement of the first baby things die down a little bit, but I’m jumping for just as much joy this time around. So after debating whether or not to send a full-blown baby announcement, we both came to the conclusion that we really wanted to let our friends and family know in a personal way, and went for it.

Our go-to is always Minted for customizable stationery. We’ve got it down to a science, and these literally took me about 20 minutes to customize and order (including having them addressed and return-addressed for me!). I looooove the Minted process because you can really take a card and make it into anything you like. We used this birth announcement and adjusted it to be a pregnancy announcement, no problem. It’s brilliant!

As for a photo, we didn’t want to go too cheesy — just fun photos of our little family with something extra as a nod to the new little nugget. So a balloon was our stand-in. Turns out, Henry was thrilled to have a photoshoot with a balloon. Who knew? Thing was hours of entertainment afterward, too. Ryan kept wanting to tuck his shirt in and put a bowtie on him and even though it’s so cute I can’t stand it, the bowtie photos ended up on the cutting room floor. So here are some bowtie photos for good measure.

Little boy in a bowtie holding a balloon

We also used our tried-and-true method of taking our own photos with the process we outlined for you here. Sometimes it’s just easier for us to run out and do a photoshoot on a whim, rather than hire a photographer and go through all of that hooplah. So if you need to snap some family photos, check out our tutorial on how you can do it on your own. We picked and edited our favorite snap and popped it onto our announcement card. Piece of cake.

So excited to be sharing these little projects with you for Baby #2! Anybody out there have more than one little one? Did you announce it in the same way as your first? I’d love to know your thoughts on announcing a second kiddo! xoxo

How to Announce a Second Baby

How to Announce a Second Baby

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Baby Announcement

A Little Announcement!

Ohhhhh SNAP we’re having another baby! You guys! It’s happening! I’ve been dying to share the news and now that we’re knocking on the second trimester’s door I’m so excited…

Baby Announcement

Ohhhhh SNAP we’re having another baby! You guys! It’s happening! I’ve been dying to share the news and now that we’re knocking on the second trimester’s door I’m so excited to tell all you lovelies! We are so, so excited and grateful to be on the baby train again, and to add another little Foy to the party. And in honor of all of the nosy questions you get when you’re pregnant, a little FAQ for you.

Was it planned? (Would you believe bunches of people actually ask this question?! Sheesh!) Yeah, we wanted another baby and we wanted the two kids to be pretty close in age. They’ll be 22 months apart, so it will be an adventure for sure.

Due date? September 30th. I went into labor with Henry on his due date, so I’m hoping this one can be equally as punctual. 😉

Boy or girl? Don’t know yet but we will be finding out. Mostly I just want another blessedly healthy tiny human. Although if I’m being perfectly honest, the idea of two little boy rugrats rolling around in the mud together sounds kind of amazing. At this point I wouldn’t even know what to do with a girl!

Does Henry know? He gets it, I think. When we ask him where the baby is, he points to my tummy. We’ve been showing him photos of when I was pregnant with him, explaining that mommies get big when they’re pregnant and that another little baby is growing in there right now. And telling him stuff about how much babies cry, and how he can be a good big brother. He’s still so little himself, but I know that he understands so much of what goes on around him. So we’re doing our best to prepare him.

How am I feeling? Uhhhhh, don’t ask. I have never been a fan of being pregnant – I just don’t like the feeling of not being in control of my body. Pregnancy is like temporarily renting out your insides to an alien with a penchant for rowdy parties. The first trimester last time was vaguely unpleasant; this time it’s been tough. I was really struggling with nausea (as in, unable to work/care for Henry/care for myself), so my doctor prescribed some anti-nausea meds. They have been a wonder and don’t make me feel perfect but certainly make it so that I can function. Suffice it to say I’m really pumped to be moving into the 2nd trimester, which is usually a sweet spot for feeling pretty good.

So friends, that’s what’s going on! We’ll be doing baby updates here and there; I’m really trying to make a conscious effort to celebrate this second baby as much as the first. So many times a second baby is like, “I’m pregnant! Anyway, what was the score of the game last night?” So we’re trying to give this little one its fair shake. 😉 Mostly, we are really just feeling incredibly blessed that this is happening again for us. I don’t know how we got so lucky but I sure am grateful. Stay tuned for more from babytown! xoxo

 

baby sitting in grass

Friday List // TV Show Theme Songs

First of all, a gratuitous baby picture. Henry in his natural habitat: dirty shirt, grass-stained knees, happily pulling dandelions out of our lawn and subsequently trying to eat them. It’s…

baby sitting in grass

First of all, a gratuitous baby picture. Henry in his natural habitat: dirty shirt, grass-stained knees, happily pulling dandelions out of our lawn and subsequently trying to eat them. It’s the simple things, guys. (Outfit from Old Navy and moccs from Freshly Picked!) I can’t get enough of those chubby little boy knuckles.

Okay, who watched Fuller House?! I admit to having watched about four episodes — I mean, come on! Full House was the stuff of my youth so I totally have to revisit DJ and Steph and the gang. And was it amazing? Ummm no. But did it fill the heart of my inner 1980’s child? Totally. It’s kind of bizarre, like a complete flashback. The writing is the same, the house is the same, the people are the same. Part of me thought they’d update the style of humor but nope — they went classic Full House and are sticking to their guns.

And while I was singing along to Everywhere You Look during the opening credits, it got me thinking about my favorite tv show theme songs of all time! There are some good ones, aren’t there? And it seems to me the best ones come from the late 80’s and early 90’s. I know you have faves! I tried to list my top five theme songs and came up with this list (although I’m positive I’m forgetting some good ones!):

Thank You For Being a Friend
Where Everybody Knows Your Name
Duck Tales
Movin’ On Up
Gummi Bears

Aaaahhhh! They’re so good! I played the Duck Tales one in the studio and Ryan and I had to stop for an impromptu dance party. And I think the Golden Girls song might be my favorite theme song of all time. Okay your turn — best theme songs ever, any era. Go! xoxo

Judgy Parents

Adventures in Parenthood // Passing Judgement

When we were new parents, people would ask us all the time what we were learning or what our major takeaways were. I always had a couple. First, I had…

Judgy Parents

When we were new parents, people would ask us all the time what we were learning or what our major takeaways were. I always had a couple. First, I had no idea you could love something so much. And second, it was my personal mission to never judge another parent for their choices in parenting, because this shiz is hard.

Henry is a vocal dude. He’s happy. He’s a little boisterous. Lately when we’re out at restaurants he gets excited and lets out these little yelps. Obviously we are trying to teach him that yelling at the table or in a restaurant is not cool. (And truthfully, it’s not even that loud.) But what do you do in the immediate? There’s no stopping a baby who’s so happy he has to crow. So every time it happens, you teach. Sometimes we look around and see other parents (most often grandparents) smiling like they know the drill and kindly excusing our loud kid. Other times I catch the eye of somebody who clearly doesn’t think we’re disciplining well, or who thinks that perhaps this fine establishment of In ‘N Out isn’t the proper venue for a loud baby. And every time I see those looks, I just cringe. Partly because I’m a people pleaser and hate making other people upset. And partly because I think the children and families in our communities would be so much better off if people would just stop judging.

Then there’s what I like to call “milestone judgement.” This sounds something like, “Oh, wow… He’s not walking yet? Isn’t he 11 months old? Oh, don’t worry — I’m sure he’ll get it…” Or, “How funny! MY baby was saying full sentences at one year!” Or, “So you’re going to switch him to cow’s milk, right?” See where we’re going with this? And I always wonder about those milestone judgers out there: Does it make them feel better? When the passive aggressive judgement is flying, is it because they’re trying to feel more confident about their own parenting choices or their child’s milestones? Because I’m not entirely positive what other reason there might be to get all judgy on a fellow parent. When you get down to it, this gig is hard enough without having the pressure of judgement from other parents, when really all anybody wants is to do the best thing for their babies.

I confess: I’ve been guilty of it too. Perhaps not vocally, but I’ve definitely passed judgement in my head before even realizing what I was doing. But I do try to fight it with everything I’ve got. Because there’s no way to know the full story. Maybe that mom at the park who’s on her phone has been home with the kid all week and just needs two seconds to decompress. Or maybe that dad is spanking his child because it’s the only discipline that gets any traction. It’s impossible to know every nuance of a family dynamic. And what’s more, when you’re in the trenches of parenthood, sometimes you just have to do your best to survive.

Tell the truth – have you caught yourself judging? Or if you’re a parent, have there been certain times when you’ve felt judged? xoxo

Mom and Baby on the Beach

OMG 35

35. I’m 35 today! What?! 35 is one of those ages that I never imagined myself being. I would hear “35” when I was little and think “Woaaahhhh that person…

Mom and Baby on the Beach

35. I’m 35 today! What?! 35 is one of those ages that I never imagined myself being. I would hear “35” when I was little and think “Woaaahhhh that person is a grownup. They probably know how to do everything.” And now here I am and I can fully attest to the fact that 35 year olds know some stuff, but definitely not everything. The good thing, though, is that this birthday doesn’t feel scary or old. I feel like I’m in it to win it, man! 35 now sounds confident and fun and adventurous. I feel so grateful for where I am and for my family and all I can hope for is at least another 35 years to enjoy it all.

We already did our big birthday trip, so we’re keeping it low key today with a little happy hour at home for friends and a family dinner this weekend. Ryan asked what I wanted for dinner and seriously, out of everything in the world, I said pizza. Obviously.

Hoping you all have a reason to celebrate today, too! xoxo

Toddler

Adventures in Parenthood // I Have a Toddler

Oh, my heart. A few weeks ago Henry took his first steps. We had been working on it with him, helping him go from crawling to walking holding both hands…

Toddler

Oh, my heart. A few weeks ago Henry took his first steps. We had been working on it with him, helping him go from crawling to walking holding both hands to walking holding one hand and finally we were playing in the living room one night and Ryan said “Walk to Mommy!” And he just… did. And my heart twisted in a new way that I haven’t felt yet because my baby is now a toddler.

How do these days pass? Days and then weeks and then months and milestones and years? I have never wished one moment away, even the ones in the middle of the night where your legs give out because you fell asleep standing up trying to shush the kid to sleep. Not even the ones where you’re covered in puke for the third time that week. Or the ones where the kid doesn’t even want you because he’s into Dad that week. But despite not wishing those moments away, they fly just as quickly as the happy moments and they fall away and every day the baby marches farther away from being a baby and closer to being a kid/teenager/adult.

I remember the first few weeks of having Hanky home — I was a postpartum mess. I would look at him and feel these scary waves of love that I couldn’t control and didn’t know how to deal with and the only way they could make it out of me was to cry like an idiot. So there were some tears. And then after a few weeks I could feel the fog lifting and I felt more like myself. But it wasn’t like the love subsided; it was more like I learned how to manage it. Like learning how to surf. You’re never gonna turn the wave the way you want it so you just ride it out and enjoy. And now that he’s older, every time he hits a milestone or learns something new or looks at me and touches my face, I feel those same waves and just try to ride it out.

I imagined him taking his first steps a dozen times. But never once did I imagine how I would feel about it. Turns out, the overwhelming feeling was pride. Pride?! Never would have guessed. But here’s this tiny person, and I was the first one in the world to touch him, and he’s ours, and we watched him learn to breathe and eat and drink, and now he’s figured out how to put one foot in front of the other. And I was just so proud of him that he was brave enough to try and fall and try again.

And now? Now we have a kid who runs around and tears apart our cabinets and looks at us with total unbridled joy that he found the bag of tortilla chips. Mom!!! Look at these chiiiips!!! At least, that’s what I imagine he’s saying. So we clean it up and make another mess and learn another thing or two every day. And I have a toddler. xoxo

Five Ways to Make Time for Your Health

Five Ways to Make Time for Your Health

Before Henry was born, I was pretty decent at taking care of myself. I mean, when you have all the time in the world to cook or go to the…

Five Ways to Make Time for Your Health

Before Henry was born, I was pretty decent at taking care of myself. I mean, when you have all the time in the world to cook or go to the gym, it’s a piece of cake to think about and do the things that are good for you. And then came the age of the baby. Yeesh. I love being a parent but all of a sudden the day is completely full between working and momming and it’s so easy to get to 3 pm and realize that you have a headache because you haven’t had a single glass of water that day. (True story.) When literally every waking moment you have is packed, how do you take care of yourself? It’s a toughie.

I decided early on that I would make a few sacrifices to try to take care of my health as a mom. It’s so important to me for so many reasons — not the least of which is that I just feel like a better version of myself when I’m eating well, being active, staying hydrated, all that good stuff. So whether you’re a mom, or just crazy busy, or just trying to crush your New Year’s goals of taking better care of yourself, here are my five favorite ways to make some time for your health.

Get up Early

I know. I know. We’re not all morning people. But sometimes you just have to haul yourself out of bed to get a jump on the day. When Henry was about 2 months old I started getting up at 5:30 to go to the gym and it was the best gift I could have given myself (these days it’s more like 6, since I don’t have to pump first any more). I can get up, get to the gym for a serious sweat session, get back home, get showered and do my hair and makeup before anybody else in my house is even awake. (God bless my child who dutifully sleeps until 7:30 every morning!) That way, my body is awake and alert, I’ve gotten my workout in, I feel fresh and pumped and ready to take on the day.

Water Water Water

I heard a trainer at my gym say to someone the other day that the body responds to water like nothing else. And it’s so true! Can’t you feel it when you are dehydrated? I feel slow, foggy, and just… ick. So I’ve trained myself to just always have a tumbler of water with me, period. It follows me all over the house while I work and I take it with me in the car. I know it sounds ridiculous, but I always drink more when it’s out of a cute cup (like this one! or you can make your own!).

Take Your Vitamins

Another thing that I always forget makes me feel good? Taking a really good multivitamin. Knowing that I’m supplying my body with the nutrients it needs gives me a little peace of mind, and it’s something that literally only takes a few seconds to accomplish every day. I’ve been taking the OLLY Super Food Women’s Multi, which has all the usual goodies in a multivitamin, plus a gang of antioxidants that most other multis don’t have. It’s got phytonutrients from some of the most nutritious foods on the planet, so if you’re short a couple of veggies for the day it gives you the extra nutrient boost you need. When I’m taking a good multi like this one, hands down I have better energy reserves to get me through the day. The OLLY Superfoods line is now available at all Target stores in the U.S., in addition to OLLY.com. (Psst — you can get 20% off your first subscription of any OLLY product right here with the code SUPER20, valid until March 30!)

Five Ways to Make Time for Your Health

Snack Well

You never have to tell me to eat twice. I’m alllll about snack time. But obviously not all snacks are created equal. Instead of just pounding the nearest candy bar, take a few quick minutes to get something balanced. A little protein goes a long way at snack time; picks like greek yogurt, cheese & crackers, or apple & peanut butter make me feel balanced and fueled enough to stay focused. You do not want to hang out with me if I miss that snack, guys.

Set Healthy Reminders

This is a new one for me! I set a few reminders on my smartphone throughout the day to stop whatever I’m doing, get up, and do something active for one minute. Sometimes I’ll plank for a minute, or do a minute’s worth of squats or pushups, or whatever strikes my fancy. It gets the blood pumping and is the perfect way to break up a day without spending a ton of time. That, and my plank game is getting strong.

So! What other time savers do you have up your sleeve when it comes to looking out for your health? For some reason, it’s the easiest thing to let slide when we get busy (especially, I feel, for women), but perhaps the thing that we should make the most important. I really believe that when a body feels healthy so many other things fall into place. I’d love for you to share more tips in the comments, and I hope that a few pieces of my routine make their way into your days too! xoxo

Five Ways to Make Time for Your Health

This post is sponsored by OLLY. All opinions are my very own. Thank you for being supportive of the partners who help keep Lovely Indeed rocking!