Throughout my blogging adventures over the years, I’ve had lots of people ask how I found my blogging “voice.” And to be one hundred percent honest, I’m not sure that I actually have the strongest, or most clear, voice in the blogging community. My content ranges all over the place, some days I talk about DIY and some days I’m getting deep into motherhood, at times I use the blog as a poetic outlet and at other times I just come here and tell a joke and leave. So in that sense, Lovely Indeed isn’t the most clear voice you could find on the web. But when I stand back and look at the blog as a whole, I hope that people see what I see — that it’s cohesive because it’s about the life that I’m creating with my family. It’s real, and it’s about the real things that inspire us.
That’s what I try to explain to folks when they ask for advice on finding their voice. I don’t necessarily think honing in on your voice means deciding to focus on a specific blogging niche, or even a style of writing (although if it does mean those things for you then more power to ya). I think it has to do with an overarching feel for your blog. It has to do with the goals and missions you set for your blog. It has to do with what you want to accomplish, and what you want to share with the world. It has to do with why you’re blogging in the first place. Last year, when I felt like Lovely Indeed’s voice was getting a little all-over-the-place, I decided it was time to write our Manifesto. (If you haven’t read it, it’s a nice little boost for your day.) It’s our compass, it’s everything we stand for, and everything we aspire to be. It’s our voice.
So what does this all even mean?! It’s fine to talk in flowery, vague terms, but what if you’re actually struggling with finding your voice? Or even struggling with something to focus writing about? I always say start with what you love. If you start there, you can’t go wrong. Maybe the thing you love changes every day, and that’s cool. But if you’re writing from a passionate place, people are gonna feel that. And that’s what makes people want to read blogs. To see other people being passionate, and to see that other people are like them, and to relate to someone that maybe you’ve never met but have so much in common with. So start with what you know and love. Write like you talk, if that helps. My writing style has pretty much developed into sounding exactly what it’s like to have a conversation with me. And I like it that way. Maybe that’s not for you, but do what feels true.
Are you a blogger? Or a writer of any kind? I’d love to hear your input on finding a voice, and if you have struggled with it — or how you have found the sweet spot that feels like you. xoxo