Judgy Parents

Adventures in Parenthood // Passing Judgement

When we were new parents, people would ask us all the time what we were learning or what our major takeaways were. I always had a couple. First, I had…

Judgy Parents

When we were new parents, people would ask us all the time what we were learning or what our major takeaways were. I always had a couple. First, I had no idea you could love something so much. And second, it was my personal mission to never judge another parent for their choices in parenting, because this shiz is hard.

Henry is a vocal dude. He’s happy. He’s a little boisterous. Lately when we’re out at restaurants he gets excited and lets out these little yelps. Obviously we are trying to teach him that yelling at the table or in a restaurant is not cool. (And truthfully, it’s not even that loud.) But what do you do in the immediate? There’s no stopping a baby who’s so happy he has to crow. So every time it happens, you teach. Sometimes we look around and see other parents (most often grandparents) smiling like they know the drill and kindly excusing our loud kid. Other times I catch the eye of somebody who clearly doesn’t think we’re disciplining well, or who thinks that perhaps this fine establishment of In ‘N Out isn’t the proper venue for a loud baby. And every time I see those looks, I just cringe. Partly because I’m a people pleaser and hate making other people upset. And partly because I think the children and families in our communities would be so much better off if people would just stop judging.

Then there’s what I like to call “milestone judgement.” This sounds something like, “Oh, wow… He’s not walking yet? Isn’t he 11 months old? Oh, don’t worry — I’m sure he’ll get it…” Or, “How funny! MY baby was saying full sentences at one year!” Or, “So you’re going to switch him to cow’s milk, right?” See where we’re going with this? And I always wonder about those milestone judgers out there: Does it make them feel better? When the passive aggressive judgement is flying, is it because they’re trying to feel more confident about their own parenting choices or their child’s milestones? Because I’m not entirely positive what other reason there might be to get all judgy on a fellow parent. When you get down to it, this gig is hard enough without having the pressure of judgement from other parents, when really all anybody wants is to do the best thing for their babies.

I confess: I’ve been guilty of it too. Perhaps not vocally, but I’ve definitely passed judgement in my head before even realizing what I was doing. But I do try to fight it with everything I’ve got. Because there’s no way to know the full story. Maybe that mom at the park who’s on her phone has been home with the kid all week and just needs two seconds to decompress. Or maybe that dad is spanking his child because it’s the only discipline that gets any traction. It’s impossible to know every nuance of a family dynamic. And what’s more, when you’re in the trenches of parenthood, sometimes you just have to do your best to survive.

Tell the truth – have you caught yourself judging? Or if you’re a parent, have there been certain times when you’ve felt judged? xoxo

Two-Minute Makeup Routine

A Two-Minute Makeup Routine

Whether you run on mom time or plain ol’ busy person time, some days (orrrr most days) you just don’t have a million years to stand in front of the…

Two-Minute Makeup Routine

Whether you run on mom time or plain ol’ busy person time, some days (orrrr most days) you just don’t have a million years to stand in front of the mirror doing your hair and makeup. Right? Right. But also, I’m a firm believer in trying to look put together just about every day, because I just feel better when I do. So to that end, I’ve accidentally developed a fail-proof two minutes (or less!) makeup routine that is totally doable on the daily. I didn’t set out to make it happen, but it turns out that when you have a baby screaming for you to make him breakfast you just eliminate all parts of your beauty routine that aren’t absolute necessity. It’s like Darwin’s natural selection, but in your makeup bag.

Two-Minute Makeup Routine

Foundation or BB Cream. I’m still into bareMinerals bareSkin these days after having tried if a couple years back. It’s super quick to put on and you can apply it with clean hands to save time instead of getting all fancy with a foundation brush. It covers quickly but feels really light and breathable.

Eye Primer. My eyelids are persnickety and if I don’t use this stuff, any eyeshadow I apply will be on my cheeks by lunchtime. My fave is Stay Don’t Stray. It evens out color on your eyelid (and underneath if you apply it!), and holds on to shadow like crazy. Also, don’t tell my aesthetician but I use this stuff as concealer too, if I have a spot that needs covering. I’m a smarty.

Shadow. Keep a little palette on hand and you can switch it up! On the daily, I use a light shade under my brow and on the inside corners of my eyes, and a neutral shade with a tiny bit of shimmer all over the lid. It’s a super-quick way to look awake and fresh. On days that you have more time, get a little crazy and add a shade or two.

Rouge. Oooooh I feel so fancy for having said rouge instead of blush. But really, it’s blush. These days I use Nars Deep Throat, which is just a perfect little punch for your cheeks.

Two-Minute Makeup Routine

Two-Minute Makeup Routine

Lips. After having Henry, I had to switch up my lip plan a little because I kept leaving lipstick kisses all over his cute little cheeks! I found the Vaseline Lip Tins, which I love — they’re a throwback to the original design from the late 1800’s! How fun is that? I use the Rosy Lips for a little tint of color and lots of moisture (but the Cocoa Butter flavor is a close second fave!). It’s not sticky or greasy so I can smooch the kid all day long, but it has the perfect amount of glossy shine. (You can snag ’em Vasline.us, target.com, or at your local Target!)

Lashes. I’ve long been a devotee of benefit’s mascaras and these days I’m into the Roller Lash! It’s lengthening and curling, so you can skip the eyelash curler step. This is always my last step to really look awake, even if we didn’t exactly get a full night’s sleep the night before.

Done! Now, is this the makeup job I would do for a photoshoot? Nope. But will this face take you to the office/grocery store/playdate/brunch? For sure. Busy hotties of the world, rejoice — it doesn’t take a million years to put your face on! I’d love to know your faves for a quickie makeup routine — do tell! xoxo

Two-Minute Makeup Routine

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Mom and Baby on the Beach

OMG 35

35. I’m 35 today! What?! 35 is one of those ages that I never imagined myself being. I would hear “35” when I was little and think “Woaaahhhh that person…

Mom and Baby on the Beach

35. I’m 35 today! What?! 35 is one of those ages that I never imagined myself being. I would hear “35” when I was little and think “Woaaahhhh that person is a grownup. They probably know how to do everything.” And now here I am and I can fully attest to the fact that 35 year olds know some stuff, but definitely not everything. The good thing, though, is that this birthday doesn’t feel scary or old. I feel like I’m in it to win it, man! 35 now sounds confident and fun and adventurous. I feel so grateful for where I am and for my family and all I can hope for is at least another 35 years to enjoy it all.

We already did our big birthday trip, so we’re keeping it low key today with a little happy hour at home for friends and a family dinner this weekend. Ryan asked what I wanted for dinner and seriously, out of everything in the world, I said pizza. Obviously.

Hoping you all have a reason to celebrate today, too! xoxo

Free Printable Wall Art

Printable Wall Art

You know when you move into a new place and you have trouble finding the perfect thing to decorate a certain wall and so eventually you just give up the…

Free Printable Wall Art

Free Printable Wall Art

You know when you move into a new place and you have trouble finding the perfect thing to decorate a certain wall and so eventually you just give up the fight and the wall stays blank for years? Yeah, that. We’ve had these two sad spots in our master bedroom since we moved in, and we couldn’t for the life of us figure out what to put there! I just couldn’t find the right photo or art, and I’m notoriously fickle when it comes to decorating so I didn’t just want to go punching a bunch of holes in our walls to hang art that I only half liked. So I finally, finally came up with a solution — make our own art! And we partnered with Command to hang them using Command™ Picture Hanging Strips so that even if I change my mind, our walls will still be perfectly clean.

Materials

Make Time: 30 Minutes

Free Printable Wall Art

Free Printable Wall Art

Step 1: Download one or both of our printable posters (Always Weekending, size 16×20″ or Everything is Awesome, size 18×24″). Take the file to your local print shop and have them create your color prints. Insert the printed posters into your frames.

Step 2: As described on the Command packaging, clean the surfaces where you’d like to adhere your picture hanging strips.

Step 3: Separate the strips.

Step 4: Press strips together.

Step 5: Remove the green liner from one side of the strip and apply it to the back of your frame.

Step 6: Remove the green liner from the other side of the strip and press firmly onto the wall, holding as directed on the packaging.

Free Printable Wall Art

Free Printable Wall Art

Free Printable Wall Art

Hey, I love these! They’re just the fresh pop of color I wanted for the master bedroom walls, with some sayings that we absolutely love and try to live by (yes, I truly believe that everything is, in fact, awesome). And my darling husband loves the fact that our walls are safe and sound with no extra holes thanks to the hanging strips, because invariably in about 6 months I’ll decide that it’s time to rearrange all the art. A perfect solution for my total lack of decor decisiveness! So I gotta know — which would you hang, and where? xoxo

Free Printable Wall Art

I am proud to be a 3M-sponsored blogger, and as part of my responsibilities, I get the opportunity to evaluate 3M products. Opinions are my own and additional products used in the project were selected by me.

How to Protect Your Intellectual Property

How to Protect Your Intellectual Property

Hey hey lovelies! As promised, our resident smartypants, Maria Spear of Spear Intellectual Property Law is back today to put some more smarts in our brains! (Her first post was…

How to Protect Your Intellectual Property

Hey hey lovelies! As promised, our resident smartypants, Maria Spear of Spear Intellectual Property Law is back today to put some more smarts in our brains! (Her first post was NOT to be missed.) Today’s all about protecting yourself and your ideas as best you can. I’m sure we’ve all been witness to some nasty bouts of idea theft, from small time bloggers to big time corporations. In this installment, Maria shares her top tips on how to protect your intellectual property, and avoid those situations altogether. Don’t forget to save this one in your bookmarks to come back to again and again. Now sit back, get comfy, and hey hello again to Maria!

Read on to find out how to protect your ideas!

How to Make a Gold Bar Acrylic Tray

DIY Gold Bar Acrylic Tray

Hold the phone, kids! We found a new favorite material for projects and I am prrrrretty excited about it. Have you ever worked with acrylic?! It’s such an interesting material….

How to Make a Gold Bar Acrylic Tray

How to Make a Gold Bar Acrylic Tray

How to Make a Gold Bar Acrylic Tray

Hold the phone, kids! We found a new favorite material for projects and I am prrrrretty excited about it. Have you ever worked with acrylic?! It’s such an interesting material. I love that it comes in so many colors, both opaque and translucent. For a long time I was daydreaming of laser cut projects, but who among us has a laser cutter in their craft room? Not I. So we’re dreaming up some awesome acrylic projects that you can make with the tools you have at home, starting with this DIY gold bar acrylic tray!

Materials

  • 12″ x 12″ acrylic sheet
  • 9″ or 10″ bar drawer pulls (we used these!)
  • drill
  • screws
  • optional: gold spray paint
  • painter’s tape
  • wood block
  • ruler
  • pencil
  • craft knife
  • tweezers

Make Time: 2 Hours (Plus Drying Time)

How to Make a Gold Bar Acrylic Tray

Step 1: Start by measuring where you’d like your bars along the edge of the tray. It will depend on how long your bars are. These are 9 5/8″, and we placed them about 1/2″ in from the edges of the sides. Leaving the protective paper cover on the acrylic, use a pencil and ruler to measure and mark where the holes are on your handles and where you’ll need to drill on the acrylic.

Step 2: At this point, if you’re not spray painting your bars, remove the protective covering. If you plan on painting them, leave the covering in place. Place the acrylic sheet over a wood block on a work bench. Pushing straight downward, drill through the acrylic on each marked point with a drill bit just large enough to accommodate your screws.

Step 3: Using screws that are just long enough to screw through your handles and the acrylic without any excess length, attach all four bar pulls through the drilled holes.

Step 4: Optional: Mask any exposed acrylic with painter’s tape. If you’d like to change the colors of your bars, mist with a light coat of spray paint. We painted our silver ones gold. Repeat with light coats until you have your desired coverage; we used about 4 coats. Tip: Be careful not to spray from too close or with too heavy a hand, or the paint may pool and drip. 

Step 5: If your protective covering is still in place, remove the masking and the covering from the tray. You may need to use a craft knife and tweezers to remove any remaining bits around the base of the handles.

How to Make a Gold Bar Acrylic Tray

Fill that baby up with anything you like! Right now it’s housing a bunch of my office supplies, but it would look equally fun on a coffee table, or in a bathroom filled with girly goodies. I could see it eventually landing in my bedroom to organize jewelry or trinkets, too! Where would you put yours?! xoxo

How to Make a Gold Bar Acrylic Tray

How to Make a Gold Bar Acrylic Tray

How to Make a Gold Bar Acrylic Tray

How to Make a Gold Bar Acrylic Tray

This Week + Back to Reality

(Henry’s wearing the tank jumper from June and January!) BOOOOOOO I’m back at work! Just kidding I love my job. But even when you love your job, isn’t vacay just…

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(Henry’s wearing the tank jumper from June and January!)

BOOOOOOO I’m back at work! Just kidding I love my job. But even when you love your job, isn’t vacay just the best? We’ve been all over California for the last week or so, introducing Henry to Disneyland, hitting our old LA haunts, and gallivanting around San Diego with friends. It was beautiful to say the least, and I’m so sad it’s over!

But also, there’s always something nice about coming home, isn’t there? Sleeping in my own bed last night was a magical thing indeed. So this weekend we’ll be recovering from our trip and catching up on piles of laundry — ya know, the normal stuff. Ick. Somebody needs to make laundry fun.

What are you doing this weekend? xoxo

How to Make Painted Floral Sunglasses

DIY Floral Painted Sunglasses

I have been freezing cold for what feels like months. No kidding, I feel like I haven’t been warm since October. It’s been a chilly winter, and our house has…

How to Make Painted Floral Sunglasses

I have been freezing cold for what feels like months. No kidding, I feel like I haven’t been warm since October. It’s been a chilly winter, and our house has these old windows that you can feel the cold just seeping through. It’s been so wonderful to feel myself thaw out during our little trip over the last few days. Before we left, I decided I wanted to refresh a pair of sunglasses for our travels, to add a little color  to the trip! These floral painted sunnies are perfect for spring and summer, and for all of your travels and adventures.

Materials

  • plain pair of plastic sunglasses
  • acrylic paint
  • small paintbrushes
  • acrylic paint sealer (Outdoor ModPodge works well)

Make Time: 30 Minutes (Plus Drying Time)

How to Make Painted Floral Sunglasses

Step 1: Clean your glasses to make sure they’re free of dust and debris. Dry them thoroughly.

Step 2: Starting with green shades, paint a few free-form leaves scattered on both temples. Allow to dry, and add another layer in another shade of green for depth.

Step 3: Choose a bright shade and paint some ruffly floral shapes scattered around and overlapping the leaves. Start with one shade, allow it to dry, then go over with another shade.

Step 4: Using a thin brush and a contrasting but complementary color, paint some outlines to give the flowers definition.

Step 5: If you wish, finish your flowers by painting a few stamens to add an extra pop of color.

Step 6: Allow all paint to dry fully and seal with a layer of paint sealer. Allow this to dry and cure.

I’m loving these custom sunnies, and the fact that you can paint anything you like on them! They’ve been just the little bright pop I needed to start getting in the mood for spring and summer, and they’re just right to take along in your bag  if you’re heading on a trip. And good news, gang — we’re partnering with Carnival Cruise Line to bring you a whole series of travel-inspired DIYs, so you can get ready to head out on your adventures in style! Stay tuned for what’s coming next — you’re gonna love it.  xoxo

How to Make Painted Floral Sunglasses

How to Make Painted Floral Sunglasses

How to Make Painted Floral Sunglasses

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DIY Embroidered Easter Sweater

DIY Embroidered Easter Sweater

Ryan and I were shopping the other day and came across a whole table full of embroidered sweaters with French sayings on them and cracked up laughing. Mostly because I…

DIY Embroidered Easter Sweater

DIY Embroidered Easter Sweater

Ryan and I were shopping the other day and came across a whole table full of embroidered sweaters with French sayings on them and cracked up laughing. Mostly because I wanted every single one of them. What is it about French words that get us all so riled up?! Do you think French girls are walking around with English phrases plastered all over their shirts? I have no idea and I don’t really care, because I think it’s adorable. Anyway. I got inspired to make a little Easter number and this was born! It says “I Love Bunnies” in French, and I know for sure because I double-checked my work with my mother, who used to be a French teacher. So there.

Meanwhile back at the ranch, I asked Ryan to snap some photos of the final project and he was goofing around so much all I have are photos of me laughing like a maniac. So thanks for that, husband.

DIY Embroidered Easter Sweater

You can find out how to make it over on Darby Smart, and order your supplies too if you want to make one! J’adore les lapins! xoxo

DIY Embroidered Easter Sweater

How to Make a Gold Photo Backdrop

How to Make a Gold Photo Backdrop Worthy of an Oscar Party

I live for awards shows. I love watching and waiting to see who’s going to be the classiest, and who’s going to trip on their ill-thought-out gown, and how many speeches…

How to Make a Gold Photo Backdrop

How to Make a Gold Photo Backdrop

live for awards shows. I love watching and waiting to see who’s going to be the classiest, and who’s going to trip on their ill-thought-out gown, and how many speeches Kanye is going to interrupt. Love. Love love love. I haven’t had an Oscar party in so long, but this backdrop has me thinking I should invite my neighbors over and tell them to wear something sparkly so we can take red carpet photos. And the real beauty is that it only took me about 30 minutes and $20 to make a gold photo backdrop worthy of Oscars night!

Truly, this bad boy is beyond simple. Like, if you have kids you could put them to work making it while you get your nails done so you’ll be awards show-ready. I’m just saying. Get the full how-to right here, and get some gold up on your walls! xoxo

MAKE A GOLD PHOTO BACKDROP FOR YOUR WALLS

P.S. More DIY photo backdrops!

How to Make a Gold Photo Backdrop

How to Make a Gold Photo Backdrop

How to Make a Gold Photo Backdrop

How to Make a Leap Year Cake

How to Make a Leap Year Cake

Leap Year only happens so often gang, so let’s freakin’ party! Ryan and I were trying to think of some cool way to celebrate Leap Year and we were like,…

How to Make a Leap Year Cake

How to Make a Leap Year Cake

How to Make a Leap Year Cake

Leap Year only happens so often gang, so let’s freakin’ party! Ryan and I were trying to think of some cool way to celebrate Leap Year and we were like, “Let’s go ALL out.” After all, what happens on Leap Year stays on Leap Year… or something like that? But seriously, if there’s one day to celebrate like it ain’t gonna happen again for a while, it’s Leap Day! So obviously the way to celebrate is a cake covered from head to toe in gorgeous candy. We teamed up with the gang at Sugarfina, who sent over the most INSANE collection of candy you could ever imagine. It’s like someone saw inside of my candy-obsessed brain and made my wildest dreams come true. Here’s how you can make your own Leap Year Cake to celebrate the day that barely exists!

Materials

Make Time: 2 Hours (Plus Baking Time)

How to Make a Leap Year Cake

Step 1: Mix your cake (we are alllll about the box mix around here, it’s foolproof!) according to the instructions.

Step 2: Decide how many layers you’d like your cake to be. We made 5 layers of cake using a 6-inch round cake pan. Bake your cakes according to the instructions on the box.

Step 3: After all cakes are cooled, carefully level off the top of each cake using the serrated knife. Hold the knife horizontal to the ground and carefully saw across the top, being sure the knife is level. The goal is to remove the domed section on the top of each layer.

Step 4: If you wish, color the frosting you’ll use in between each layer. Put a few tablespoons of frosting into your small mixing bowls and color with food coloring as desired. The colors we used were as follows:

  • dark green = 3 drops neon blue, 1 drop neon green
  • light blue = 1 drop neon blue
  • light green = 1 drop neon green
  • lilac = 1 drop neon pink, 1 drop neon purple

Step 5: Place a dollop of frosting on the center of the cake stand and place the first layer down on it; I prefer to place the trimmed side down.

Step 6: Spread one color of frosting in a thin, even layer over your first layer of cake.

Step 7: Repeat Steps 5 and 6 until you have reached the top layer of your cake.

Step 8: Add a crumb coat to your cake. This simply means ice it with a very thin layer of frosting so that all of the crumbs are contained. Once you’ve got a smooth crumb coat, place the cake in the fridge for an hour.

Step 9: Remove from the fridge and add a thicker layer of white frosting, smoothing it as best you can.

Step 10: Start decorating! Place larger candies first, scattering them to your liking. If you’re adding large candies to the sides of the cake, be sure they’re not so heavy that they’ll fall off.

Step 11: Continue in the same manner, placing smaller candies in between larger ones to cover the whole surface of the cake.

How to Make a Leap Year Cake

How to Make a Leap Year Cake

And if you’re interested, take a peek at the goodies we used from Sugarfina! You should probably definitely snag some of these for your own Leap Cake. Or maybe just to hoard and eat yourself.

Bubbly Bears. Chocolate Confetti. Chocolate Sparkles. Champagne Bubbles. Confetti Dolci. Ice Cream Cones. Kyoto Blossoms. Mama & Baby Piglets. Matcha Green Tea Caramels. Pale Ale Pints. Piccolini. Sugar Cookies. Sugar Lips. Dark Chocolate Marshmallow Eggs.

Booooom! I dare you to bring this bad boy out for dessert at your next party. In fact, I’m pretty sure you have to throw a Leap Year party just so you can serve this cake. It’s a force to be reckoned with! And I must recommend you serve sparingly to children, lest they be bouncing off the walls for the next week and a half with all of the sugar in their systems. Hey, Happy Leap Year! xoxo

How to Make a Leap Year Cake

How to Make a Leap Year Cake

How to Make a Leap Year Cake

How to Make a Leap Year Cake